Being chatty could easily be used when listing my top ten defining characteristics. I love words. I love to talk. And even though being talkative describes my personality, sometimes I think it's the things you don't say that are even more meaningful and interesting. I love the idea of an unspoken bond.
These bonds aren't the ones that you necessarily think about on a daily basis or really at all until the moment when that person or thing comes back into your life. So where are these bonds found? What am I even talking about? Let me explain. These are the bonds you have with the people who you happen to walk by every single day, but never have any actual interaction with. The dude who is always walking past the library on your way to your 12:40 class. The chick who is always eating in the car the same time as you. Or maybe the guy who always ends up being in your classes, but they are always so large that you never actually meet. You know you see them everyday, they know they see you every day. You might make eye contact or share smiles every once in awhile, but that is the extent of your relationship. It's nothing all too important but just sort of nice.
Of course the best part of this whole unspoken bond deal is that it doesn't have to be only with people. Yes, you can have an unspoken bond with inanimate objects, too. These are the bonds you have with that one bathroom stall you always go to when you are at the library. The chair you sit in every time you have a class in a certain building. This is the mutual understanding you have with that one shirt that you wear every time you need to have some good luck. You know it will do its job and it knows you will praise it as the luckiest shirt you have ever owned.
The reason these bonds are so nice is because the largest controversy they can cause is that every once in awhile they are broken. Someone sits in your chair. The "always walks by the fountain at the same time" guy isn't there when you pass today. In other words, the breaking of these bonds is painless and gone mostly unnoticed by everyone and every thing involved. So it's basically a relationship that warrants absolutely no work, but you get all the reward. You get the feeling of camaraderie and inclusion without doing anything at all.
From year to year, these bonds will most likely change. That is the best part. These bonds are the various people and things that define certain times of your life. Maybe when you look back at your freshmen year of college you will remember the giant dude with a bun that you always used to see and laugh. These bonds are entirely yours and are only shared, without words, with the people and the things that they are with, so you can think of them however you want. You can make a whole life story for the guy you always see working at 7/11, and as long as it's harmless and kind, you can be positive that his life has turned out exactly as you assumed it would.
All in all, what I am saying is thanks to all the things and people that I have had unspoken bonds with. Stay golden, giant human with a man bun.
