Imagine you're shopping, trying to find the perfect pair of shoes.
The first thing you do is go to the shops you know. Although the store has jackets, caps and other worthless things, you go just to get shoes. You are so anxious to have that pair that you don't realize that the store has a lot of things that you could like.
The same applies to dating, a group of colleagues or your best friend. It works exactly the same way. When you search for something specific, you are losing out on many things along the way. If you go straight to the single shoe shop, will be missing out on a ton of deals, and possibly even better prices. And while you are looking for that model or specific shoe, you could be missing all those jackets and caps around you.
I have personally staked my life on an analogy that I baptized as "the unopened door."
Strangely enough, whenever I meet a person I can imagine an infinite number of doors in front of me and each of them may contain something behind them. Maybe a new friendship, a one-night stand, or perhaps, the love of my life. If you just want a one-night stand, you may miss out on that special friend. If you are looking for love, you may be skipping out on the best sex you'll ever have. If you're just looking for friendship, you just might be passing up the love of your life.
We believe that everything we do we is thought of in a rational way. Do you consider yourself a rational person? Do you fully master your acts and everything that you do? Many instincts drive us every day, many instincts that we do not fully understand, so we fight against them. Why are we not guided to feel so irrational and inexplicable? By butterflies, the knot in my stomach and not by what we think. "Oh no! This is not what I'm looking for. I want a partner who loves me, who pampers me and appreciates what I do ... someone that makes me feel special." Are we talking about falling in love or the perfect order at a restaurant? I do not know. What a life we live where we repent what we have done and take the "what if?" to the grave.
If you decide to leave the door unopened, if you decide not to judge, you can not begin to imagine the amount of experiences you can live! Do you know how many times I have looked over my shoulder and thought, "You're crazy! These things only happen in the movies!" Well, I can assure you that that's not true, and I can also assure you that none of those things bore the label of "What should be done," "Best for my future," "It is what suits me," or "What will they think of me?" Really...is all that crap is more important than your happiness? I don't think so.
You have your metaphors, and I have mine. We all feel differently and understand things differently... We have different points of views, but in my opinion, to have a valid opinion about something, you must have lived through it first.
"How do you know if you don't like something, if you haven't tried it?"
