At the beginning of the summer I became part of a nineteen-person group message, which consisted of fifteen girls and four boys, which throughout the summer has trickled down to thirteen people, including myself, eleven other girls and one poor, lonely boy, who we all love and adore.
The group has seen it's ups and downs from May to July, but I would not want to change my experience with these people who have become my support system, my loves and most importantly my little family. When coming up with a topic for this article, they were nothing but supportive of my concept of "unmeeting" people who have effected our lives.
Many girls in the group have their own insights and opinions of the concept.To me wanting to "unmeet" someone is quite simply seeing your life from hindsight and wishing that you can "unmeet" the person who has changed your most whether for the worst or the better.
One brave girl, Bo, spoke up first, her story was about a boy, we'll call him Ty. Ty was a boy that met Bo when she was a freshman in high school. They somehow clicked, instantly became best friends. She stuck by him through thick and thin. Though senior year, no one, not even their group of friends liked Ty, but Bo still stuck by him, but even then he caused problems.
"I didn't really see what everyone else saw until the kid sexually assaulted me.", Bo said. But even then bo rationed Ty's actions in her mind as her fault, which she sees in hindsight as ridiculous. Ty somehow ended up homeless, Bo would let him come to her house and take over the guest bedroom, charge his phone, and give him food. Even after all the problems he caused she still cared for him. The end of the story is actually quite sad, Ty got up and left without a word and hasn't been heard from since.
The reasons Bo wants to "unmeet" Ty are quite obvious, but he used her for a place to stay, money and food. He also abused her and who wouldn't want to "unmeet" someone who hurt them. Bo's story is anything a blessing, he definitely effected her life for the worse.
My story however; is a little different. In fact, I think the only thing similar to the two stories is that they focus on a boy. We'll call him Eli. Eli and I met three years ago as freshmen in high school, I became very attached to him, sadly another girl Eli was friends with turned my entire friend group against me within two years.
As a junior I felt alone, Eli and I were so close, we loved each other. not having him by my side destroyed me. In fact, I had written about him in my journal everyday for a month and cried because he hated me and I couldn't do anything about it.
Junior and senior year I did a lot of learning about myself. I learned that if I was going to really love someone or something I would have to love myself first. I rediscovered my love for writing. If Eli hadn't treated me the way he did, I wouldn't be sitting here telling my story in hopes that girls everywhere see that boys are not the end of the world and that we don NOT need them. There is so much more to the world than boys, there's: school, extra curricular activities, sororities, sisters, and most importantly family and friends.
Would I ever want to "unmeet" Eli? I've given a lot of thought to this question and my answer is more often than not; no,Eli made me better in the long run, he was a blessing in disguise. I would not be the happy, outgoing, fun-loving, coffee addict I am today without him being part of my life. I appreciate what he's done for me. We may not be able to be to speak a word to each other in public, but he has a place in my heart and I am a better me because of him.
My advise after sharing two stories is that if you see someone pulling you down, either walk away from it and learn form it or cut them off. They aren't healthy relationships and should be stopped immediately, even if you love the person.
