It is an amazing feeling to be in love with someone or thinking that you are in love with someone. There are constant laughs, dates, and new adventures with your significant other. However, no one likes to talk about the bad, the worse, and the ugly. Some of you may ask, what are the bad, the worse, and the ugly? That is where I come in. Think of me as your fairy relationship counselor, as I guide you through the ugly parts of a relationship that no one talks about.
When relationships begin they are amazing. You lay there thinking about your significant other, and when will you see them next? You spend countless hours thinking of date ideas, and how everything is supposed to go. Now, as your F.R.C (fairy relationship counselor), I am here to tell you to stop planning every detail of your relationship. You should take it for what it is because the odds are what you are planning in every single detail won't happen that exact way.
For those of you who will not follow my advice, this is where the bad comes in. You go on your date, and something happens that wasn't in your plans. First of all, let me tell you it is okay. It will happen, and sometimes you may feel as if you're panicking because you may not know what to do (depending on the situation). There may be a minute or two where you get home and wonder. Is there something you could have done to make the night more perfect? This is the bad. The first feeling of not feeling good enough where you wish that you didn't feel as bad as you did, but here you are being hurt just because something didn't go the way you planned. If you're anything like me the worry will last for a bit and maybe even move to the paranoia that you're not good enough. Now let me be the first to tell you that you're good enough.
The next thing on our list is the worse. Now the worse isn't something that happens, but it is a feeling. It is the feeling that maybe that spark that you thought you had, with your significant other, is dying out. Maybe you aren't talking as much, or maybe one of you are too busy for each other. That is okay, it will happen in your relationship. The real kicker though is wanting to keep fighting because you are so in love with them, and you think the relationship is ending where there literally is nothing wrong at all. You might also get paranoid that your s/o is no longer interested in you, and that they're talking to other people that you think are better than you. I get it, that part really sucks, and for those of you who have had this happen to, I am sorry, you didn't deserve that. Once again, let me be the first to tell you, you are the best you, you can be and there will never be anyone who can be a better you. Don't let your self-doubt hurt your relationship or love because you never know, they might need you just as much as you need them.
For those of you who have gotten this far, you know what the ugly might be. This is the part of the relationship where you feel as if you no longer have a heart because it shattered so much. The part where you cry, trying to catch your breath because you're sobbing too hard. This is because the relationship is over. No one ever talks about the breakup. No one wants to talk about it because you may cry harder, or you may scream out of frustration. However, it needs to be talked about. The truth on why it ended needs to come out. You need to be honest with yourself, and you need to move on. It sucks but it is for the best, especially if you want to start healing. I will also be the last one to tell you it gets better.
Not all relationships go through the bad, the worse, and the ugly. Some relationships have one but not the other. In the end, though, you need to be there for each other because communication and love is what really keeps a relationship going and trust me I know because I am you F.R.C and I am magical. After all, haven't you experienced any of these tragedies?
