The Truth No One Tells You About College, From A Rising College Sophomore

The Truth No One Tells You About College, From A Rising College Sophomore

It’s not going to be easy, so you shouldn’t expect it to be.

When I started at Delaware last fall, I thought that I would be able to continue to study the way that I did in high school and I would do well in school. I quickly learned that in college, you need to study way differently than you did in high school.

Professors don’t give you study guides like your high school teachers used to give you; you need to go through the textbook and your notes and make a study guide for yourself. Take notes on everything that is written on the board and said by your professor because if that class isn’t on UD Capture (a blessing of a class recording), you’re going to want to have all of that information when you go back to study for your exams later.

Living away from home for the majority of the year is something that you definitely have to get used to. If you’re like me and you never went to a long sleep away summer camp then it’s going to be a bit weird sleeping somewhere that isn’t your own house for a while. But, you figure out a routine and you get used to the feeling of going to your dorm every day instead of going to your house after school.

Going from living in a house with more than one room to living in a 19’ x 10’ box that you share with someone else isn’t exactly the easiest thing to do. You’ll miss your personal space and sleeping in your own room, but eventually, you start to get used to the situation and you know how to live with it. If you’re lucky, you’ll have a good roommate who will be nice and friendly, but if you have a roommate who you don’t get along with it’ll take a little bit more adjusting.

As someone who just went through a bad roommate situation, I can tell you that it won’t be fun. It’ll make you dread being in your room sometimes, but at the end of the day it’s your room and if you want to be there, then you go right ahead. Make it your space and remember that no matter what, it’s your room.

The best way to adjust is to find what you want to do on campus. Go to the club/RSO fair to find out about what you can join, there’s something for everyone. Go to the gym, find a new place to adventure, or anything else that would make you happy. If you find something that makes campus feel more like home, it’ll make the adjustment a lot easier. For me, my sorority is what made Delaware feel like home to me. Everyone is different and you just need to find your thing.

Go to class. Sure, your professors may not be taking attendance every day. But, you’re definitely going to need to know the information that they’re telling you and you shouldn’t rely on someone else’s notes to give you all of the information that you need. Communicate with your professors and go to office hours if you need help. All of this is so important for success in school. Keep a planner or use Google Calendar to keep track of all of your assignments and events so that you don’t miss anything.

Make sure to have fun and relax while you’re at school too, it can’t all be stress on academics all the time. And just remember, soon enough it’ll be summer again and you’ll already be done your first year of college.

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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hor air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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We Can't Plan Our Lives And That Doesn't have To Be A Bad Thing

It puts into perspective how very little control we have on this planet.


Life will wreck your plans, every time, and I'm not really sure that's a bad thing. I think it just puts into perspective how very little control we have on this planet, and that's humbling.

I'm learning a lot right now about letting go. Having little idea of what I'm going to do after college or down the road can feel really daunting at times, but it's also forcing me to hold my heart in the peace of certain truths I know.

Truth #1: Nothing you ever do, or don't do, can affect your value. I believe in God, and His promises and the rooting I've found in Him destroy all other theories of my worth. You might not believe that. Regardless, I hope you know you're priceless. If we claim to care for humanity, I believe we have to also acknowledge that nobody could possibly have any more value than anyone else. Let's not commodify ourselves. There is freedom in rejecting the notion that you have to be a certain person to be valuable.

Truth #2: There is beauty in faithfully walking into the unknown.

Truth #3: Life is scary, but we've made it through a lot of scary stuff so far, and we can do it again.

Truth #4: The world is a very broken place, and the longer I sit in inaction, the more I know we have to do something.

Truth #5: Boundaries are important. Although I am put on this earth to create further goodness and spread further light, I can't do it all. I have to learn to live within the tension of being human and being created to give of myself to the world. Sitting in the now with uncertainty of the future allows me time to consider the kind of boundaries I want to retain in order to protect my heart from the trying times that are sure to continue coming.

Truth #6: Although sometimes I feel like I'm stuck because I can't plan the future, I'm learning. Every single day. I'm constantly being grown, challenged, and opened. The idea that we can be "stuck"... is kind of a lie. Every moment, every event, every experience is important. We just have to remain open to being changed.

Truth #7: The unexpected does not have to be negative. Surprises, and even obstacles, do not have to be received with stress or anxiety. We never know what is coming— if we approach and receive the things that happen to us unexpectedly with hope and positivity, stress and anxiety have a much weaker grip. Grief is necessary, and disappointment is human; mental battles are not easily fought. But we can fight. And we can hope. And we can be positive even through immense amounts of pain.

Truth #8: Sometimes the days with no plan are the very best.

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