Trusting God in your Singleness Kaleigh K
Despite what this world and our culture tells us, it is okay to be single. Being single is a beautiful time- it is a time for you to solely focus on your relationship with Christ and hear what he is speaking to you without outside distractions. Our culture tells us that we are not worthy if we are not in a relationship with the opposite sex. But, I say (and the Bible), we are in a relationship, all the time, and it happens to be with someone far better than we deserve, Jesus Christ.
We need to rid our minds of what our society says that single people are second best to those married or in a relationship. Guess what? Christ loves us just the same whether we have a significant other or are single. Paul speaks of singleness as a gift. Not being single and content but rather as a state or time of being single. As long as you are single, it’s a gift from God, just as marriage will be God’s gift if you ever receive it. We should receive our situation in life as a gift from God, whether it is singleness or marriage.
Believe it or not, the Bible talks about how there are advantages to being single. Paul discusses these advantages in 1 Corinthians 7. Marriage is hard, it takes work and the bible says to the single person; “you are spared the troubles of marriage”. Life is complicated enough, enjoy this time of being on your own to do what you want, when you want, without worrying about making decisions that will effect someone else. For example, what is on the menu for dinner, where to spend holidays, wanting to hang out with friends on a whim.
Singleness is hard. There are nights and days when Satan creeps loneliness into our hearts and minds. There are countless movies that we love to watch like every Nicholas Sparks movie ever about love, romance, and the beautiful picture it portrays. The holidays are especially tough for being single as we see everyone we know posting cute pictures to reflect their time together during the holiday. But, God hears your struggles just like he did with Adam in the beginning. God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” in Genesis 2:18. God saw how lonely Adam was in the Garden of Eden and created Eve from his own flesh. Yes, singleness is hard and tough sometimes but, being single isn’t always forever.
Most of you who are currently single will marry one day. There are 8 billion people in the world more than likely one of them will be your soul mate. Someone who you can create memories with and do all the things you longed to do during your time of singleness. But for the others of you who might not marry or find someone on earth, Jesus is our bridegroom. Jesus will return one day and take his bride. Guess who that is?? YOU!! Jesus wants to take you to spend eternity with Him in his perfect new creation. All your pain and suffering on this earth will be gone. God will wipe away every tear you shed during your singleness and will reward you for being patient, and waiting for Him. He will say, “Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! The Marriage of the Lamb has come; his Wife has made herself ready. She was given a bridal gown of bright and shining linen. (Revelation 7:17, 19:7)
God says in Matthew 6:33, “but seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” So during this time of singleness I challenge you to be patient, focus on your relationships(with God, friends, and family), and enjoy this time of reflection, and pray for your future spouse. It will all be worth it, I promise!