Too often, people walk around as if they world is supposed to stop when they have a bad day. What about the rest of us that are silently coping with personal struggles that don't have the desire to share them with the world? Is your struggle more important than mine? Why didn't you ask if there was anything going on with me? WHY is it always about how you feel and not about they well-being of the group?If you are or if you know someone that acts like the rest of the world owes them everything, this article is specifically for you/them. Here are 10 suggestions that you can give to that person, or take in for yourself, to become somewhat less of an annoyance:
1- Before you complain about your own issues, ask how everyone else is doing. - I'm not telling you that the ticket you got this morning isn't important, but before you complain about how everything bad always happens to you, maybe ask to see how other people are doing. Part of being a good friend is being able to listen to other friends' problems as well. People get tired of listening to you and not having anybody listen to them, in return.
2- Look on the bright side. - Sure, you got that $100 speeding ticket, but at least you didn't get arrested for reckless driving or kill anybody while driving like a maniac through downtown. Be glad somebody corrected you before it was too late.
3- Do something nice for somebody else. - This pretty much goes with what JFK said. "...ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country." Same concept applies here, just perhaps on a smaller scale. Don't expect to receive more than you give. To receive much, you must give much.
4- Start changing the outcomes of certain situations, and if you can't, change the way you think about it. - If you're tired of being screwed over time and time again, maybe it's time you change what you're doing to get yourself in that situation. If you can't change it, change the way you're thinking. Sometimes the problem isn't the situation, it's your mindset.
5- Go the extra mile for yourself first. - If you don't fully love yourself and treat yourself like the Princess/Prince you want others to see you as no one else will treat you that way either.
6- Stop holding in your emotions until the very last minute. - Learn how to tell people when something is upsetting you early on. Realize that the world does not revolve around you though. Just because you say something doesn't mean things will automatically change. It just prevents a diva meltdown, in the future.
7- Praise people when they help you out. - Instead of telling people they're not doing enough for you, praise the ones that do. If not, those loyal people won't continue to bend over backwards because you're acting as if they're not good enough.
8- Say thank you every once in a while. - A little goes a long way.
9- Surround yourself with good people. - Good vibes only. Birds of a feather flock together.
10- Collect yourself before your meltdown. - Ask yourself if you've down steps 1-9. If not, then you're not deserving of a meltdown. If so, then you still need to chill out and conduct yourself in a respectable manner; have your meltdown in private.
We all have bad days. Join the club.
Be a good person.
