To The Random Dude On Instagram Who Told Me I'm 'The Boring One' In A Relationship

To The Random Dude On Instagram Who Told Me I'm 'The Boring One' In A Relationship

I'm not boring, you just don't have an imagination.


So I had commented on an Instagram post by E! News last week, which was a quote from a tweet that Chrissy Teigen had posted that said, "I haven't dated for a long, long time but are guys really pulling the whole 'let's be exclusive' thing six months into dating, like what, I have been exclusive what the f*ck have you been?" My comment said, "Say it louder for the men in the back who like to waste my time."

Little did I know this comment would get over 4,000 likes and comment after comment from female strangers who decided to show their support and comment their similar feelings on the matter.

Out of all those comments, one was from a man who had said that I'm probably playing games.

Initially, I was a little bit offended, to be honest, but then I had to tell myself that this person doesn't know me nor do I know him and I shouldn't be offended by an ignorant comment from an Instagram troll.

He had sent me a DM and what started off as a civil discussion on the subject turned into me getting fed up and annoyed by his opinion on dating and relationships. He had told me that it's probably my fault that I'm single and that I'm probably the boring one in the relationship because I don't go clubbing or party every weekend. He told me he expects his girlfriend to want to go out with him every weekend. While everyone has their preferences, I told him that he shouldn't expect his girlfriend to be anything but loving and respectful to him.

There's more to life than getting plastered every weekend and staying out until 5 a.m. He didn't really like that comment and had said that we're young and we need to make memories with our significant others as a team and not just go to the movies or Disneyland or dinner. I don't know about you, but going out to dinner, movies, or Disneyland sounds like a really fun time to me. Everyone has their own idea of what's fun to them, but to me, those sound like great options.

Apparently, me liking these activities makes me "old." If I'm old for having an imagination, for having an adventurous side or for being creative, then I must be the coolest "old" person ever.

So, to the Instagram troll, you go enjoy your nights outs. I hope you find a girl who doesn't mind that you have certain standards and expectations that they need to live up to. I also hope your girl doesn't mind that you troll women on Instagram and talk down to them like they mean nothing.

In the meantime, I'll be here, waiting for Mr. Right and when I find him, we will have the best time going to Disney or staying in binge watching our favorite TV show.

Thank you, next.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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9 Important Tweets I Love And Live By Every Day

The tweets I have selected impact me and make me question myself and my everyday life experiences.


During my free time, I love to explore Twitter. It's basically an accumulation of everyone's point of view on the vaguest to most intricate topics.

Here are some Tweets I live by:

1. "Everybody that comes into your life matters, they're either a blessing or a lesson"

In life people come and go, just like flies. Everyone you meet in life has a purpose. The boy you had your worst heartbreak with, he was a blessing, now he's a lesson of what you don't want in the future. Although it hurt you, in the end, you will be stronger because you had to endure pain.

2. "Live, and not from behind your phone screen"

People, put down your phone and actually experience what's going on. To be honest, do half the people on your Snapchat actually care about what you're doing? Do they even view it or just tap through it? These days people solely post on social media so people can see what they're doing. Half the time when people are too busy on their phone's posting away, they don't even pay attention to the people they're with, the pretty views they're looking at, and better yet some people even fake it for desired attention.

3. "Can't"

The word can't be simply just an excuse, it is all about prioritizing. If someone really wants to see you, they'll make the time. If someone wants to go somewhere, they will. Silly excuses derive from utter laziness, but at the end of the day, everyone CAN.

4. "You care too much

"Do not ever let someone tell you that you care too much. Yea, overthinking is one thing but showing someone how you feel towards them, asking about their day, how they are, etc. At the end of the day being there for those you care about will be returned in your favor. Being affected with human feelings is imperative and if someone tells you that you care too much, tell them to f ***off."

5. "It's a lonely feeling when someone you care about becomes a stranger."

In life, unfortunately, people come and go. The person you would laugh with for hours, stay up till 5 am talking to every day, hang out with on an everyday basis, etc. In life we cannot depend on others for our own happiness, we can't force people to stay in our lives because they're part of an everyday routine. Make your happiness a priority, & Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind. Ultimately at the end of the day, you have "me, myself, and I "to worry about. You have to make decisions in life that will make you happy. If you think something you do will upset someone, talk to them because at the end of the day if something is going to make you happier, your friend will understand. Self-care!!!!

6. "Never run back to what broke you."

Ladies and gentlemen, if something seriously tore you apart ... DO NOT go running back as soon as you get hit with that "wyd" or "I've changed" text. We all do it, there's no lying allowed here, but seriously if something broke you, people don't just change in the snap of a finger. You will get hurt again. It will NOT be worth it.

7. "Always hope but never expect."

If you're like me, you'll spend hours a day before bed thinking about all of the "what if "situations there are in your life. Sometimes you'll get so into thought you may even think something happened. If you dwell and think of all of the possible scenarios, you will drive yourself physically insane.

8. "You'll heal. It just takes time."

Use the tissues, and a friend's shoulder to lean on. Everything that kills you on the inside eventually will make you stronger. A breakup with a boyfriend/ girlfriend, losing a friend, failing a test, etc. These are all part of the learning process in life.

9. "Make your happiness a priority, & Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind."

Ultimately at the end of the day, you have "me, myself, and I "to worry about. You have to make decisions in life that will make you happy. If you think something you do will upset someone, talk to them because at the end of the day if something is going to make you happier, your friend will understand. Self-care!!!!

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