Treat Others The Way You Want To Be Treated

We Have To Start Treating Each Other Better

"...I do believe that choosing humility and grace will always bring with it the biggest blessings..."


I am relatively young. A woman in her early 20's does not yet have much life experience compared her much wiser elders. I have not been married, had children, experienced the death of any immediate family, or made any large purchases.


As an American child born in the late 1990s, I was thrust into a world full of technological advancements, social reform. political involvement and revolutions across all mediums of art and music. I grew up with the world at my fingertips, which meant that I could not only see all the good in the world but also all the bad. My mind developed around the whirlwind of wild, apocalyptic, sometimes disturbing headlines that I've been overwhelmed with *literally* every year of my life (see below):


"Are we headed for a global Y2K crisis?" (1999)

"USS Cole attack" (2000)

"9/11: three hours of terror and chaos that brought a nation to a halt" (2001)

"Stock Market Ends Its Worst Quarter Since The '87 Crash" (2002)

"Space was their dream - and it became their final destination" (2003)

"Impending Iraq War Hurting U.S. Economy" (2004)

"London Bomb Suspects Stood Out As Radicals" (2005)

"Saddam Hussein, Defiant Dictator Who Ruled Iraq With Violence and Fear, Dies" (2006)

"Virginia Tech Shooting Leaves 33 Dead (2007)

"Financial Crisis Enters New Phase" (2008)

"US Declares Public Health Emergency Over Swine Flu" (2009)

"7.0 quake hits Haiti; 'Serious loss of life' expected" (2010)

"Osama bin Laden is dead" (2011)

"Sandy Hook Elementary shooting leaves 28 dead, law enforcement sources say" (2012)

"5,700 presumed dead in June floods in India" (2013)

"2014 Ebola Outbreak: Full Coverage of the Viral Epidemic" (2014)

"The rise of Black Lives Matter: Trying to break the cycle of violence and silence" (2015)

"Orlando Gunman Attacks Gay Nightclub, Leaving 50 Dead" (2016)

"#MeToo Floods Social Media With Stories Of Harassment and Assault" (2017)

"What we know about the Las Vegas shooting" (2018)

"Shutdown looms as border talks break down over immigration enforcement" (2019)

THIS is the stuff I heard as a child. And it was everywhere! My TV, my computer, and my phone were littered with Planet Earth's horror stories in graphic detail. In a way, I grew up much faster than I was supposed to. I know about the many ways humans hurt each other because I've lived most of my life hearing stories of violence and terror, some of which bled into my personal life as I began to experience more of the world. All this say, I've got street cred even though I'm only 20.

With said street cred, I have only one point to make: WE MUST BE NICER TO EACH OTHER.

I know this sounds like some hippie-dippie mess and a Band-Aid solution, but it's something humans are obviously failing to do. The way that people speak to one another makes me want to cry. I get mad and stomp my feet and wonder how mankind can tear itself apart in the name of self-elevation.

But, I'm just as much part of the problem. I say things without first calculating the repercussions because my current situation in the world feels so dire that I cannot think of anything else but myself. It's a horrible way to go at life. So then why do we all treat others poorly if it makes both parties feel crappy inside?

It's a question that humans have been trying to answer since the first time selfishness came into the world. Self-centeredness has been part of our nature for so long. It's the first choice; that "gut" feeling. But what so many of us fail to acknowledge is that we do not have to lean into a me-focused world.

I'm not saying that choosing kindness is easy. It's proven to be one of mankind's largest hurdles to jump. But, there are ways to make loving others a little easier. In my experience, I have found that the smallest acts of compassion can completely alter the lens through which you see life. When your purpose is something other than yourself, you become a vessel of positive change which in turn rewards you with seeing others experience joy. Being kind is the best win-win situation ever. I don't believe in "karma" but I do believe that choosing humility and grace will always bring with it the biggest blessings life can offer.

Of course, the many, widely debated details of what it means to have a kinder America and a more humble world will always be in limbo. That's just part of having thousands of governments with their own interests. But, I believe humans instinctively know the basics of practicing love as well as they know selfishness. We are born with the knowledge that love is the highest. Love is God. Love is self-sacrifice. Love is so much more than us. We can choose to embrace love or run from it, but both sides know that it exists.

The choice to embrace love will be vital in piecing together a more peaceful planet, even in the big, scary cases of law and politics. As humans, we must invest in the things we love before we can invest in being kind to others. Start with spending time examining your spirit. Then honor yourself as someone covered in love and worthy of care. Help your family. Check on your friends. Seek out those in need. This circle of kindness expands outward endlessly from a God you know more personally than anyone to people you will never meet. If I do not attend to the things at the center of my circle, I cannot expand outward which leaves me feeling dejected and without purpose.

Take care of yourself. Grab a buddy and take care of them, too. Experience extreme cases of purposeful life and unity.

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1. When class is canceled.

2. When the coffee shop you stop at five minutes before your 8 a.m. has a short line.

3. Coffee, coffee, coffee.

4. Open note tests.

5. Or even better, take home tests.

6. The unofficial assigned seating process that that takes place after the first week or so of classes.

7. Thursday nights. (because in college, Thursday qualifies as the weekend.)

8. Sales.

9. Or once again, even better, free things.

10. Specifically free food.

11. Dogs.

12. Dogs on campus.

13. Tailgates and Saturday afternoon football games.

14. Finding an already completed Quizlet for your exam.

15. Having an extra 30 minutes for a nap, and if you're lucky, an hour.

16. Netflix.

17. When your roommate takes out the trash.

18. Weekends after test weeks.

19. The rare blessing of a curve on an exam.

20. Getting out of class early.

21. How in college, it is socially expectable to wear a t-shirt everyday.

22. Being able to walk from class to class or eat in the dining hall without having to see anyone you know. (and thank goodness too because you probably don't look too good.)

23. Crossing things off of your to-do list.

24. Your best-friends that you make in college.

25. A full tank of gas.

26. Seeing a new face everyday.

27. Crawling back into bed after your 8 or 9 a.m. (or after any class that ends with a.m.)

28. Care packages.

29. No cover charges.

30. When adults tell you that it is okay that you have no idea what you want to do with your life yet. (regardless of what parents or your advisor may say.)

31. Pizza.

32. Finding out you weren't the only one who did poorly on the exam.

33. Deciding not to buy the textbook, and never needing it.

34. Finding the perfect gif to express how you're feeling. (Michael Scott just get it.)

35. Weekends at home because...

36. Pets.

37. Mom's home cooked pie and Dad's steak dinners,

38. Spring Break.

39. Road trips.

40. When it finally starts to cool down outside so you can show up to class dry instead of dripping in sweat.

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Everyone Should Experience Working In Fast Food Or Retail

Working in fast food was definitely not sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows, but I'm so glad I did it.


I know these jobs aren't glamorous. In fact, most days I looked forward to clocking out before I had even clocked in. I always secretly rolled my eyes when an angry customer droned on and on about how entitled he or she was. Though I can name a lot of bad things that happened on the job, it wasn't all horrible. As I reflect on my time working in fast food, I realize how much having that job really taught me and how grateful I am to have had that experience. I really think everyone should work in fast food or retail at some point, and here's why:

You make some great friends from work. I get it, sometimes your co-workers are royal jerks or flat out creeps. You see your name on the schedule next to theirs and immediately try switching with someone else. I've been there. However, I have worked with some amazing people as well.

Every time I worked with one girl in particular, we laughed for entire shifts. One night, we were singing the national anthem at the top of our lungs without realizing a customer had come in (to our surprise, she applauded our terrible screaming). Another coworker and I turned up the radio on full blast when business was slow and had dance battles. We made the most of our shifts, and I still talk to some of these people today.

You learn how to deal with difficult people. It's the age-old story: the uppity customer thinks twelve dollars for a meal combo is outrageous and Where is your manager?!

My friend and I were once called stupid and a customer said he would never come back to our restaurant to eat ever again. At the moment, we were scared out of our minds because we were both pretty new to the job. As time passed, we became more patient and tolerant and knew what triggered these particular customers. Dealing with these adversities definitely helps in the long run, particularly when it comes to doing group work with people who seem unbearable.

Your people skills increase by a landslide. I had always thought that I was great with people before I had a job. However, when I found myself in situations where I had to talk to strangers, I would grow nervous and stumble across my words from time to time. Working in an environment where communicating with others is a driving force helped me not only with improving my public speaking, but also made me more outgoing. In situations where I once backed into the corner to avoid having to talk to someone, I now take charge and initiate a conversation.

You establish a connection with regular customers. My favorite customer was named Jack. He was the sweetest old man who came in every Wednesday and Friday and bought food for himself and his wife. I quickly memorized his order, which impressed him. We shared pleasantries every time he came in, and my coworkers and I looked forward to seeing him.

Establishing a relationship with people who come in a lot helps immensely when it comes to working. It also provides a sense of accomplishment when you memorize an order. Not to mention, the customers start to like you and typically leave a generous tip!

You have stories to tell for a lifetime! Sometimes bad things happen at work. Once I was holding a hot pan and burned my arm— I still have the burn mark on my arm to prove it. My point is, it sucked at the moment, but now I look back and laugh.

One time I asked my coworker how to make soup and she replied, "Slowly, but beautifully." It was so nonchalant that I cracked up for hours. There was also a time when a customer asked me for outlandish toppings and condiments that we didn't offer. The craziest story, though, was the drug deal that went down in our public restrooms. My coworker and I obviously could not leave our station and follow these people into the bathroom, so we were pretty much defenseless. Nobody got hurt or anything, so it made for a great story.

Working in fast food was definitely not sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows, but I'm so glad I did it. It made me more independent and outgoing and gave me memories I'll never forget.

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