Treat Your Friends The Way You Would Like To Be Treated, Age Doesn't Matter

Treat Your Friends The Way You Would Like To Be Treated, Age Doesn't Matter

Treat everyone you meet with the same respect and kindness that you hope to gain in your own life and you might just find someone who will make you even happier.

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As the years have passed our personalities, morals, and conversations with one another about life have definitely changed but the way we treat others should only evolve in a positive way. This is something I've found that most of us have problems with as we develop differences in our personalities and character which conflict with the way that we treat others. Our parents build solid foundations for us and watch over the way we treat our friends and how we describe the issues or positive aspects of those relationships with them. In my personal experiences, I've lost a number of friends yet gained such value and respect from others that have entered my life based on speaking upon my past with old friends. As we have difficult situations that make it difficult to trust and let people into our lives, we are able to connect on a deeper level with people and share our own experiences as well as forming our own bonds. I could remember a day that I met one of my best friends in first grade, right before I switched schools and she cried when I left. That was the day I realized that a friend is much more than a person to play at recess with, she actually cared about me even in first grade.

The progression of time was occurring and I went from first to second to third to fourth, and before I knew it my personality was changing as sixth grade approached. People were becoming more opinionated as well as I and decided to form negative portrayals of others based on looks which were unsettling. These actions translated into the ways that we would treat one another based on the way we looked, acted, or who we were friends with. Many would cling to someone who had a stronger personality as they would treat them poorly, but they just wanted a friend. Why couldn't we just treat another as we did in first grade, with compassion and care disregarding looks or any differences in personality? We all care about one another in some shape or form, so the difficulty comes with why we stopped doing this at some point.

In college now, I see loopholes in many relationships including those of mine that I have formed within these four years. Why do we still have issues at the age of 20 and up? We all still have these difficulties in our relationships due to the way that we treat others with such disrespect and lack of empathy. In this generation, we have trouble opening up because we are consumed with so much fear of what will come from it and what others may think of us as a result of our differences. It's crucial that we respect one another and encourage our friends to open up in confirming that we will be there for them. The more that we form these deep, positive relationships, we will be able to have stronger and healthier bonds with one another.

So, treat everyone you meet with the same respect and kindness that you hope to gain in your own life and you might just find someone who will make you even happier. Best friends are difficult to find, but the more you seek the qualities in others that you desire within yourself, you may just find the absolute best people. Strive to do the best, and be the person for someone else that you want in your own life.

"Share your smile with the world. It's a symbol of friendship and peace." - Christie Brinkley

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An Open Letter to the Best Friend I Didn't See Coming

Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.
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Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!

JQ

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Stop Assuming Your Queer Friends Are Going To End Up Falling For You

News flash: if you're my friend, the chances of me falling for you are slim to none.

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Ever since I came out my senior year, I've encountered bumps of my friendships due to my sexuality. I think people understand gay, lesbian, and bisexual identities rather well. However, there are other members of the LGBTQ+ community that isn't as understood as well.

I identify as pansexual but start using the term queer. Essentially, I don't have a preference if someone identifies as female or male. When it comes to love and relationships, I care about the quality of the person and if I'm getting the love and respect I deserve.

However, to some of my friends, they seemed to become afraid. They distanced themselves in our friendships in fear I would end up falling for them.

News flash: if you're my friend, the chances of me falling for you are slim to none. You are my friend for a reason. If I liked you, I would honestly be too nervous to talk to you.

It's nice to know to have that kind of self-confidence where you think everyone has a crush on you. That's the attitude to have because you are a pretty great person. However, sorry to break it to you, but you just are not my type.

There is absolutely no reason to cut off a friendship just because you don't understand. Your queer friends would probably like you to ask questions. It can be a sign you care about them and showing support. There is nothing wrong with asking questions either. When you're in class and you don't know anything, then you ask a question. When you are getting to know someone, you ask questions. Even if you knew this person for a while, ask away!

I think there is a stigma of not knowing something and feeling embarrassed. However, it shouldn't be this way. We should embrace the unknown, learn, and grow from it. It's 2019. It's all about being open-minded to differences. We have to do better for the next generation.

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