The Transitions That Transform You

The Transitions That Transform You

Nothing anyone says or does, can truly prepare you for life as a college student.

The transition from high school to college is one of the most important transformations in the life of a young adult. After spending a whole year as the “big guys” in school making memories with the people you’ve grown up with your whole life, you’re forced to leave everything behind, live with new people, and figure out your way through life on your own.

As senior year ends, all the talk about college begins and everyone tells you about how much fun you’ll have, all the great new things you’ll be able to do, and how college will be so much better than high school ever was.

However, no one can truly prepare you for what lies ahead, not your parents that have been there themselves, or even your older friends that have just recently went through the same transition.

No one can prepare you because everyone’s journey is completely different and custom fit to them. You will never know what to expect until it happens to you and you’re sitting in your dorm room thinking about how much your life has changed in just four short months.

In the matter of four months, you’re living with another person, most likely sharing a bathroom with people, walking around five miles a day to get across campus (if you’re at a big school), and trying to balance a life of partying with a life of constant studying. You go from having all the power in the hallways of your high school, to being at the bottom as a freshman again feeling the pressure to fit in and make new friends.

Looking back on my first semester as a college student, I faced challenges I could have never imagined, but also overcame them with the amazing new people I met, as well as with the best friends from my past, by my side. This has helped me become more of the woman I was made to be.

Although I made new friends and new connections with people, I also kept the old friends I needed close to me. This is the kind of balance that some people never figure out, thinking they must leave everyone from their past after high school. But, the truth is, certain people are meant to be in your life always, whether you’re at the same school or not, and if this kind of special bond exists then the distance between your school and theirs will never actually matter or affect your friendship. You know you’ll always have them no matter what.

Through my first semester, I was able to keep the past relationships I’ve formed that mean the most to me, as well as develop new relationships with the people I’m now surrounded with every day. Basically, I’ve learned that even though you transition to a life on your own, and you feel more independent than ever, the people you have in your life still do, and always will play an important role in your transition, and it’s up to you on who you want those people to be.

College is all about life transitions that transform you. Even after a life of eighteen years with your parents, and a life on your own sounds pretty good, don’t forget that you still need people on your side. Because although yes college is fun, and exciting, and free, it also gets tough when adulthood and responsibilities set in. It can get lonely, and that’s when you will realize you need your friends and family most.

No one can really prepare you for what lies ahead, because no one knows what the future holds. But this is your life now, and although there is still a lot of unknown, having a set of new friends at your school, as well as keeping the important people from your past in your life, can make the bad times better, and the good times even greater. Finding this balance is essential, and I’m so glad I found mine. Just because you are at the stage in life where you are transitioning to a life on your own and transforming into a better man or woman, doesn't mean you have to go through that transition alone.
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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hot air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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It's the little things that count.


Today, and every day, it's important to incorporate self-love into our lives. Each day, we can do something little that adds up to something big to benefit ourselves and our mental health. Loving yourself comes in many forms and activities.

1. Remind yourself that you, and your feelings, are valid.

2. Be true to yourself.

3. Do not let others take away your uniqueness.

4. List 10 things that you love about yourself.

5. Read your favorite book.

6. Take a walk alone and reflect on what makes you happy.

7. Do yoga.

8. Watch a movie that makes you laugh (or cry).

9. Paint your nails.

10. Buy your favorite drink from your favorite coffee shop.

11. Take a nap.

12. Eat your favorite food.

13. Start exercising.

14. Write down how you are feeling.

15. Identify a challenge in your life, and develop a plan to overcome it.

16. Get a massage or a facial.

17. Talk on the phone with someone you love.

18. Cry if you need to.

19. Pet a dog.

20. Go get your hair done.

21. Buy a new outfit that you feel confident wearing.

22. Log off of social media for one day.

23. Drink lots of water.

24. Talk about your life journey with someone else.

25. Color a picture.

26. Try a new hobby.

27. Go outside, and find five beautiful things to take pictures of.

28. Think about what has made you grateful today.

29. Let go of something that is bothering you.

30. Look up inspiring quotes.

31. Engage in uplifting self-talk.

32. Light your favorite candle.

33. Go on a drive to a place where you feel at peace.

34. Think about how much you have grown.

35. Take note of your accomplishments for the day.

36. Recognize your feelings and know that you are allowed to feel.

37. Take the leap of faith to get the help or assistance that you need.

38. Be kind to others.

39. Write a letter to your younger or future self, and read it over.

40. Start a gratitude journal.

41. Put on your favorite face mask.

42. Clean out your closet or room of clothes you no longer wear.

43. Understand how important self-love is.

44. Write small, encouraging notes to yourself on post-its, and put them around your room or home.

45. Take a bubble bath.

46. Smile at yourself.

47. Try meditating for 10 minutes in the morning.

48. Do something that is truly relaxing to you.

49. Go to a park.

50. Do what makes you the happiest.

Every single person is worthy is self-love. The ways of engaging in self-love are infinite, so you are able to find what works best for you. Do not doubt yourself! When you start to love yourself, it seems like life makes a lot more sense.

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