There's something about humans that I constantly have to remind myself of: we all think that we're right.
I will be saying this often to myself or to others because it's a necessary reminder.
In this case, I am applying it to the traditional or non-traditional roles in a household. I did grow up in a house where, for the most part, the gender norms are applied. I can make dinner; my brother doesn't know how to. If the house is not clean, I am scolded and not my brother.
This isn't about who does what in my household, though. Instead, that is some context about the way that some households run. While some people assert that they will not live by the gender norms, I've noticed that they can follow up with some rude or unnecessary comments towards housewives.
Not every housewife is oppressed, and not every housewife is unhappy. You can express your views of straying away from traditional roles while not putting down those who do maintain those roles.
There are many households where the traditional roles of a mother and father work well for the house and for the relationship. I think it's unfair to assume that it is a disaster to live like this. My hope, however, is that those who follow traditional roles show children that there are more options and that those who follow non-traditional roles, should not be ashamed of children who grow up to adhere the traditional roles.
A daughter can grow up to have her own job or be a housewife the same way that a son can grow up to have his own job or be a househusband. Both partners of the relationship can work and figure out who does what in the house. Take into consideration that the stay-at-home partner does plenty of work as well, with or without children. The one who makes the money can be happy knowing that they are financially maintaining the house while the stay-at-home partner can be happy to do the house work for their partner.
The point isn't to solely rebel or submissively accept a role; it is to accept that people can choose what works for their relationship, household, family, etc. We don't have to belittle the other side just to make our point. I hope that we, as people, acknowledge that any choice is fine as long as it is healthy for the person in mind.
