I HATE this week... midterms week. Everything is pretty much the same as a finals week, except I still have 10 thousand responsibilities. I am a chronic procrastinator and get distracted very easily. Knowing this happens, I try to curb the bad distractions with good ones, such as watching education videos! I'm not talking planet earth, although that's pretty cool. TED TALKS! They are a nice brain break and brain boost. Here are the top 10 Ted talks to help you get through this hell of a week.
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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.
You have been through all the college "firsts" together.
If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."
You were even each other's first real college friend.
You were even each other's first real college friend.
Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.
The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.
It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.
Late night talks were never more real.
Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.
You saw each other at your absolute lowest.
It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.
...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.
After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.
There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.
Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.
No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.
Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.
The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.
Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.
The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.
It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.
Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.
Mom-shaming, an unnecessary sort of criticism that has been around for longer than it should, and it seems like nowadays everyone believes they are a better parent to your child than you. Most moms have experienced the unwelcomed advice about their child from someone at some point in their life, and it takes everything not to lose your cool.
It has seemed to become an even more popular trend that everyone knows how to raise your kid except for you. Maybe because of the popularity of social media and the sharing of our children's pictures and milestones or maybe just because people are extra courageous now, but it's getting worse. Even people who don't even have children seem to think they are certified to enter their two cents as well.
Mom-shaming is in all sorts of forms, whether it's up front from a random stranger or backhanded compliments from loved ones, everyone seems to be concerned on how you're taking care of your child. I've had it from family members to random people who I don't really know. Whether it's on how to feed my child or the outfit they have on for the day.
But it is time to end the horrible and destroying social trend known as mom shaming. It's baffling that things so personal such as how or what we feed our kids or if they are completely potty trained by two are people's business other than our own. It's now 2019, and the new thing we should all follow is minding our own business.
As we attempt to end the oh so fun mom shaming, remember to stand up for yourself. At the end of the day, you're the parent to your child, and you know what your child needs, no one else. Most people calling out mistakes, probably have or are making mistakes of their own. Mom-shaming is a way for others to feel better for themselves, so don't fall for the smokescreen and keep on being a rocking mom.
Unless my child is in immediate danger or I ask, keep your advice and opinions to yourself. If my child is happy and healthy, I'm doing something right. And if I need your advice I'll ask, if not, please stay in your lane.
So instead of tearing moms apart, let's build each other up.