When it comes to love there are three types of people. There are people who don’t believe in it or just aren’t pursuing it, there are those who are searching for it, and there are those of us trying not to lose it. I have been every single one of these people at one point. For me the hardest type to be is the type that doesn’t believe in it because I can only kid myself for so long.
If you don’t believe in love or just aren’t pursuing it, I totally understand. It can be really hard to believe in something that we can’t see and whenever we seem to find it, it doesn’t live up to the hype we create for it. You’re entitled to your opinion and you don’t have to change your mind because of what some other people think. I do urge you however, to keep your mind open to different possibilities.
If you’re searching for a good, sustainable love then there are definitely things you need to look our for. In one of my favorite shows, “How I Met Your Mother,” Robin Scherbatsky said “If you have chemistry, you only need one other thing… Timing. But timing’s a [bad word that rhymes with stitch.]” This quote is true, when searching for love there obviously has to be chemistry between two people and, even more than that, both of the people involved have to want something to happen. Finding this chemistry is though because sometimes the chemistry between friends and significant others can be confused. You have to know the difference or you could end up where you don’t want to be.
If you are lucky enough to have found love and you’re trying to hold on, you’ll have to put in work. A huge part of it is maintaining the fundamentals that helped start off the relationship. You have to be yourself while also allowing your significant other to be themselves and be open with you. A little bit of doubt is okay as long as it doesn’t become a regular occurrence. Just think about all of the greatest decisions that have been made in this world, it’s safe to assume that they were all doubted by someone at some point. Love isn’t always a fairytale, compromises have to be made and as long as there is equality and love behind these compromises it isn’t a bad thing. Hand in hand with equality among compromises is reciprocation. I’m not saying it has to be 50/50 all the time, that’s unrealistic, but if you are the only one putting effort in then there’s probably a problem.
If you don’t believe in love just remember that love isn’t only between significant others. Love is between family members, pets, friends, and food.
If you’re looking for love and you want it enough, then don’t give up, love is the best thing we do. Don’t be afraid to go after what will make you happy, even if it doesn’t make sense.
If you have found love and you want to keep it, then don’t get lazy. Yes, if you’re with the right person it shouldn’t be hard but that doesn’t mean that effort is unnecessary.
Love is hard to understand, maybe I’m wrong, we all just have to try and figure it out for ourselves.
