To the Struggling College Girl

To the Struggling College Girl


College is thought of as the best years of your life. Everyone always says that you need to enjoy these four years before you have to deal with all of the hardships that are thrown your way in the real world. As a high schooler, I totally believed them. But now, not so much.

Entering college, I thought I was going to have a blast. I thought I was going to get to hang out with friends every night, I was going to get to meet so many new people, I was going to be able to do whatever I wanted without having to answer to anyone. My life was going to be great. But in all reality, it's been nothing like that.

People don't tell you that homework will take up the majority of your day. They don't mention that you need to workout pretty much all the time in order to stay away from the "freshman 15". They don't say that making friends might actually be pretty challenging, especially if you are a quiet girl like myself. They only gave you the perfect picture of what life should be like as a college girl. And unfortunately, you believed them.

So now, here I sit, trying to figure out why I feel like I'm not experiencing "the best years of my life". I try to stay social and get out to meet new people. I have joined about as many clubs as possible and have met some super nice people. And yet I still feel like I'm missing out.

People also don't mention the pressure that comes with alcohol in college. I don't want to party. I don't want to drink every weekend. And yet I still I feel like I'm missing out. While I'm sitting on my couch on a Saturday night watching a movie or reading a book by myself, I look at people's snapchat stories of them at a party and I actually feel left out. Why is that? I don't want to party or drink or not remember what I did that night, but I do want to have fun.

After doing a lot of soul searching, I have finally come to this conclusion: your future matters. Even though college is supposed to be wild and crazy, in order to have a future, you need to be focused on what you truly want. So that might not include going to the parties or hanging out with friends every single second of every day. It might just mean that you're going to be stuck in your room for 24 hours at a time doing homework and living off of popcorn and candy. It might mean that you will end up eating in the cafeteria by yourself some days. It might mean that you are going to spend long amounts of time by yourself And that's okay. It doesn't mean that you're weird or a loner or don't fit in anywhere. It means that you have different priorities from others, some of which are probably for the better.

Just remember, you are preparing yourself for the future. It might be tough, it might be challenging, you might constantly wonder if you chose the right college or if you are doing the right thing. But always remind yourself that it will work out, everything will be fine, and you are going to do great.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Cancel Culture Is Toxic And Ugly

Stop deciding for me who I can and cannot like.


I was really hoping that canceled culture died in 2018, but unfortunately here we are in 2019 still "canceling" whoever we personally deem "problematic." Whether it's tweeting from six years ago or falsely made allegations, waves of people will grab on to anything they can to bring down whatever celebrity or influencer seems to be doing well at the moment.

Of course, it is important to bring light to horrible things such as racism, misogyny, domestic abuse, etc., but remember these horrible things are still happening TODAY. We need to focus our energy on combating the horrible things people are currently doing and saying; it is truly such a waste of time to bring up the problematic words and actions that someone in the limelight did almost a decade ago.

Let me be clear, there is no one person I am trying to defend here. I honestly don't care much to personally defend anyone who is being canceled by angry twitter-users who found something just bad enough to hold against them for eternity. I truly just find the idea of it annoying and ugly.

The idea that any person is a completely static, flat character is so inconceivable and unlikely that I truly have a hard time understanding why we cannot accept an apology from a matured person.

If we have no evidence that a person has made any recent damaging remarks, then how can we prove they haven't changed since they tweeted something wrong in 2013?

Of course, there are people who have recently or continuously proven they are indecent people who are not deserving of any sort of public exposure, but if they are truly so horrible, people will drop them without you having to tell them to do so. You don't have to condemn those who still remain loyal; they are probably not the kind of people you need to waste your time on anyway.

If the people canceling others were constantly watched like the people they have damned, I am absolutely sure there is something we could find from their past to cancel them as well.

Sometimes it is hard to remember that famous people are still human beings just like us. Anyone is prone to make mistakes, and those mistakes can absolutely be rectified over time.

Nowadays, people love jumping on the bandwagon of finding a new person to hate and don't even stop to think about the damage it could do to that person's life and reputation.

Give people a chance to prove that they are decent human beings before deciding whether "we" as a whole should love or hate them based on such a small amount of evidence.

I am not saying you have to love every celebrity. If you don't like what someone has said or done you absolutely do not have to give them your attention or devotion, but you should not tell me whether I can like them or not.

In 2019 we should put an end to canceled culture, and, instead, learn to take people at their word and accept their apologies for their past wrongdoings.

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