Hello my dear!
So: another Valentine's Day is on the horizon, and as of right now, you don't have a significant other to spend it with, but it seems like everyone else around you does.
It sucks! Trust me: I know; I'm in the same boat. However, I'm kind of happy that I won't be spending my Valentine's Day attached.
Not being with a significant other on Valentine's Day is a gift in a way! It means that you don't have to worry about the pressures of planning out the perfect date, the perfect outfit, or feel the insurmountable pressure that people who end up going on dates.
You get to be you, and that is an amazing thing to be!
I don't know much about love or being in love, granted, but I feel like Valentine's Day can sometimes force people to do crazy things, and it's not just because they are in love.
They do these crazy things because it's what we're taught to do.
We're taught that on Valentine's Day, you show each other you love each other with fancy dinners, flowers, and candy.
I feel like we're never taught how much small gestures on such a stressful day can actually mean. For example: if your significant other does the dishes or makes the coffee in the morning instead of you having to, something that simple could mean so much more than some fancy restaurant where you have to dress fancy and you will probably feel uncomfortable.
Like I said before: I don't know much about love, but I firmly believe that having a day where you can celebrate being you, the awesome individual that I know you are, on your own and you can do whatever you want is honestly the most amazing thing in the world.
One of the things we talk about a lot in my social work classes at school is self-care. This is the idea that when you take care of clients, you also need to care for yourself. So this Valentine's Day, why not treat yourself to a nice day out? Go get yourself a new book to read, or go get your nails or hair done, or just go to the nearest store and buy yourself some chocolate!
You may not be attached this Valentine's Day, my dear, but your day will come.
Right now though? You have to be patient. Take this time to focus on you, and treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated.
Love yourself this Valentine's Day, and enjoy that chocolate!
Sincerely,
The girl learning to love herself <3
