To The Person That Hates Change

To The Person That Hates Change

I feel you.

To the person that hates change,

I feel you. I just left a company I have been working with for over four and a half years and started at a new company just last week. This past week, I have been under a tremendous amount of stress not because my new job is hard, but because I absolutely hate change.

Change sucks. When I reach a point in my life where I am comfortable, consistent and happy, I like to stick with it. Right now, it seems as if my whole life is out of whack because of one change in my life. I feel disoriented and full of anxiety. I feel lost and confused. I'm ready to get back to being comfortable, consistent and happy.

Whether it be a new job, moving to a new place or something little like trying a new food other than your go-to order, it all sucks. As horrible as it is, change is something that is always going to occur in our lives. In order to prepare yourselves for the inevitable, here are just a few things I tell myself whenever I'm going through change.

1. You cannot grow if you're staying in the same place.

Whether you're in the same place physically or mentally, there's no room for you to grow. At my old job, I was 100% comfortable in everything. I did the same thing everyday and I was confident in what I was doing. However, there was no room for improvement and there was nothing pushing me. I couldn't move up anymore because I was already at the highest place I could get at. I came to a point where I felt stuck. As much as I loved it, I needed a change to something that drives me and gives me endless opportunities so I can continue to grow in my career and continue to grow as a person.

2. Being uncomfortable is a good thing.

In society, we are taught to hurry up our lives and get to a place where we settle down and have a secure job, a secure partner and a secure life. As great as it is to get to a point in our lives of comfortability, that thought is unrealistic and we end up trying to rush through times of discomfort. The truth is that life is full of discomfort and change, and it's a good thing. Being uncomfortable means you're growing. Being uncomfortable means that things are getting better. If you're uncomfortable, things will always stay the same and things will continue to be average and boring. Enjoy the highs and lows of life and as clique as it is, remember that it's not about the destination, it's about the journey.

3. It's OK if something doesn't go your way.

If you hate change, you most likely like to plan out what happens in your life. My company went through a bankruptcy and because of that, it limited my opportunities and it limited my growth. It was a setback in my life plan and I had to rethink everything I wanted to do in my life. The point is, if there's a road block in your path or if something comes out of no where and changes your direction, it's OK. Life is full of twists and turns and like I said before, it's inevitable. I'm a believer that everything happens for a reason and if, for some reason, something comes in your life or leaves your life that you didn't plan to, it's meant to be that way. Opportunities and obstacles are put into your life to create a better you.

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10 Reasons Your Big Sister Is The Best Person In Your Life

"There is no better friend than a sister, and there is no better sister than you."

As much as I hate to admit it, my big sister might be sort-of, slightly, cooler than I am.

Sometimes. She's the one I call when I can't call mom and the only one in the family who can properly handle my attitude. Big sisters are the people you'd choose if they weren't already family, and here's why.

1. She is your first and truest friend.

Big sisters are (literally) there from day one. They see every dirty diaper, every bad haircut, and every melodramatic breakup. They deal with every bad day and drama queen attitude and still love you in the most unconditional way.

2. Her closet is your closet.

For some reason, her clothes always look better on you. Funny how that works, huh? With a big sister comes a big closet, and who doesn't love having a double wardrobe? I'd also like to take this opportunity to apologize for the clothes I will never give back (but I'm not really that sorry).

3. She knows what it's like to deal with your parents.

Anything you could possibly be going through, they went through it first. It's kind of like having an instruction manual or a key to the future. Either way, it's always nice to have someone who will always understand the struggle.

4. There are no boundaries.

Wanna dance around in your underwear all day? Cool. Life talks while she's on the toilet? Also cool. There's no awkward moments or changing in the bathroom with the door locked. There's just the kind of freedom that only comes with siblings.

5. Thanks to her, you know about all of the cool movies/music/fashion trends from years back.

Thanks to my sister, I have every Too $hort and Ludacris song you could ever think of downloaded on my phone. I've seen every cheesy '90s movie, and when a fad from 10 years ago comes back in, I already have the hookup.

6. She tells you like it is.

We all have those friends who tend to sugarcoat everything. Yeah, sisters don't do that. She's the first person to tell me when I'm making a terrible decision and that I really shouldn't triple text that boy again. She keeps it real with me and deals with my attitude, and that's why she's the best.

7. Her home is always open.

Sometimes you just need to get away from life and binge watch Netflix, and sometimes you need all of that plus your sister. She always has her door open when you're two seconds away from losing your mind, and she also has good takeout and a dog.

8. She knows what you're capable of.

My sister knows exactly who I am and what I can do. She knows when I'm not doing my best, and when I need to be set straight. She's always there to remind me who I am and what I'm capable of accomplishing. She's always been my biggest fan.

9. She's a lot cheaper than therapy.

For some reason, my sister always knows just what to say. Even if I don't see it at the time, she's usually right (don't tell her I said that). Big sisters are like wizards, somehow they always magically make you feel like life's gonna turn out alright in the end. If she wasn't already awesome at everything else, I'd suggest she be a therapist.

10. She will always be your go-to gal.

No matter the situation, she will always be by your side. There is nothing you could say or do to make a big sister leave, and that's why they're the best. Whether it's a speeding ticket, a mean girl or you just need to laugh, big sisters are always going to be there to lift your spirits and set you straight.

I couldn't make it without ya sis, I'm sorry for ratting you out on Thanksgiving that one time, and for running away at the zoo. Thanks for taking me to see Aaron Carter even though he's way too old to still be singing "I want Candy," and thank you always for being the best role model, sister and friend I could ask for.

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20 Things I'd Do If The Concept Of Time Was Abolished

If only our lives weren't limited by time.


Recently, news outlets have been reporting on how the people of Sommarøy, a Norwegian island located north of the arctic circle, would like to remove the concept of time. This is largely in part due to the fact that the sun does not set during much of the summer nor does it rise during the winter. The inhabitants of Sommarøy do not have rigidly separated days and nights like the rest of the world and can be found doing normal daytime activities at 2 am in the summers.

They also would like to take clocks out of their society. Although this lifestyle might seem impractical to the rest of us, I couldn't help but wonder what it would be like to live in a world where time is irrelevant, in regards to the concept AND the physical effects of its passing. This newfound information gave rise to ideas of things (some simple, some whimsical) I'd do if the concept of time did not exist and we had as much time to do the things we wanted.

1. Live on a ship at sea.

2. Watch a flower grow from a seed to its death.

3. Apply as much makeup as desired without being late.

4. Retake my favorite college courses and participate as fully as I possibly can, including the completion of every single reading and film.

5. Take a non-stop trip through every country in the world.

6. Learn to play and fully master every single musical instrument in existence.

7. Watch a full rotation of Earth around the sun from space.

8. Live by myself in a cabin at the edge of the woods a la Thoreau.

9. Reread every single book that shaped my childhood.

10. Have a brief conversation with every old friend.

11. Re-drink that first sip of the perfect cup of coffee.

12. Observe how the tides change with the lunar cycle.

13. Learn as many languages as possible.

14. Sit at the beach and listen to music for days.

15. Train for an Olympic event.

16. Write a detailed, thorough analysis of every track in my favorite movie soundtracks.

17. Take a photo of every interesting place I visit and every little nook I find peace in and make a physical photo album.

18. Cook food without burning it.

19. Watch a star's life cycle from birth to death.

20. Replay the feeling of coming home.


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