This is the first time I have really been able to find the words to describe the new and fresh situation that I am in. After almost two years of being in a relationship, I am a single woman. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up in January, and I look back on it, five months later, still wondering how I have come to this moment.
I am now able to go to movies without him, I can be my own best friend, and I love myself. I might not have all of the pieces together yet, but I have discovered that I am a strong and independent person. I have always been that type of person, but I guess that girl just got lost along the course of our relationship. So this is for any girl, who has questioned herself, and the new person she is trying to discover outside of a relationship.
It's okay if you do not move on right away
After every break up, one of the many questions that you are asked is, what are you going to do? Who are you wanting to talk to now? It is okay if you do not move on right away. There is no time frame of when you have to move on. Some people move on in a month, others might take a year.
Five months after my break up, I am still in the process of moving on. It is not because I still want to be with him, or I still have feelings for him, it is because I am not going to rush anything. I want some time to discover myself, and fix some of the things that I might not particularly like about myself. Why would I jump right into a relationship without fixing some of the issues I saw with myself in my last? There is no time frame for love. God will put the right person in your life at the right time, you cannot rush it.
You do not need a random guy to make you happy
I have heard too many times, "Oh I am just hanging out with this guy to get my mind off of him". There are so many healthier ways to get over a guy, than spend it with some other guy filling the void of a still upset heart. Once that fling ends, you are just going to be as sad, and as broken as before. If you want to be happy, spend time with your family.
They most likely will want to be here for you during this time of transition more than anyone. Go out with your friends, have a girls night out, cuddle with your dogs, eat some good pasta, watch some romance movies to see the type of love that you yearn for. Do not settle, and do not force a relationship just to ignore feelings from another.
You will get through this
At one point during these past five months, I said to myself, "I don't think it can get any worse than this." Since that point, my life and my attitude on my new situation has been increasing steadily. Losing a boyfriend was not the hard part, the hard part was losing my best friend. That has been the biggest struggle.
Getting over losing my best friend has made this transition a little bit harder, but every day gets easier. I am looking forward to the next love of my life. Yes, there are some days I wish I had someone to go get sushi with me, or someone I can take spontaneous trips to the zoo with, but I know that when I find my forever person, I will also find a forever partner in crime to go on these trips with me.
The end of a relationship is never easy, but once you find your forever love that overwhelming feeling of happiness, and love, will trump those heartbroken and lonely feelings that you once went through.
"If life can remove someone you never dreamed of losing, it can replace them with someone you never dreamt of having."
-Unknown
