The dilemma is real. Should this article be a threatening one or a nice 'we welcome you into our home' type things? Well, I guess it can be both. I want to start off by expressing how important it is to listen to your sisters. Listen to them when they tell you all that you should look for in a guy. They usually will end up telling you what they've always wanted and hoped for in the future. That's where it gets crucial. Hold that information in order to compare it to the guys they currently invest their time with. Question them. Is this really that guy you have talked about your whole life? Is this really the guy you would want to think about a future with? Is this really the guy who builds you up when you feel the world dropping below you? If some of the questions you ask them don't get a solid response then make it a point. That isn't to be said that it couldn't get to that level, but some of those red flags are shown the moment their first fight happens or whenever they meet the family. Little things such as keeping your sisters words from what they have always taught you can help with knowing if this guy lives up to the expectations or not. Here is a list that may be those key points to look for in that guy:
1.) He watches the 100+ home-videos and actually enjoys them.
No body really can enjoy a home-video unless the person watches them truly loves to know how their partner grew up.
2.) Puts the laundry in the dryer without being asked.
Gender roles shouldn't play that big of a role to where the other is too lazy to change clothes in effort to lessen the amount of stuff my sister has to do.
3.) Being there to listen rather than thinking of a response.
Competitive listening isn't a good way to communicate. If one isn't listening to the other and is too worried that their point isn't being said, that can lead to frustration and upset. Giving an equal amount of time to talk things through allows the conversation to be well understood.
4.) Doesn't get weird when sisters talk back to each other.
Heck, better not get in the way of a sister fight. That's sure asking for trouble. Just let it happen and then consult your girlfriend after. Because chances are, we're going to be back sisters in two minutes when we both want to go get ice cream. However, the words you said as the "outsider" can linger over your head unintentionally.
5.) Prove to us you put her first.
This doesn't mean you put yourself last. This just means that you value her more than other materialistic objects. It's her heart we are talking about, not the furniture your dog chewed up.
6.) Be in open communication with us, as her family.
Being in relationship with her sisters/brothers/parents/grandparents/cousins/aunts/uncles/best-friends, is SUPER important. If we like you, we will help you. If we don't, good luck.
7.) Let us know you are pushing her to be the best she can be.
It is hard to support someone who you see is pulling down your best friend. Being that foundation support to my sister in order for her to grow as a person is a great thing to see. Especially if you are the one encouraging.
8.) Consistency.
Do not cause harm by saying one thing and doing another. This is noticed by the parents way too much. We understand things change, but do things change every time we invite you over for dinner? Probably not.
9.) Be yourself.
We will love you as a person more than we'll judge the relationship. We all know things get crazy sometimes but the way we all deal with chaos is important to look for in a guy who wants to date my sister. Controlled chaos is okay. We can work on it together and help each other out. But being yourself will allow everyone else to love you even more.
10.) Lastly, don't break her heart. Little sisters can find a way to hunt you down.
Self explanatory.
