To The Ignorant Freshman Me

To The Ignorant Freshman Me

It's a coulda, woulda, shoulda situation.

To the Ignorant, Freshman Me,

You should have known better, but how could have you? There was no hand to guide you anymore, you were treading on new ground; your parents knew nothing. Your professors, advisor, new friends - knew nothing. They did not know you, and you did not really know where you were to actually go. Your voice was still stifled somewhere between indecision and the daunting offices, and so - you let yourself get lost.

You let yourself believe that everything was going to be okay, you let yourself believe in the whole college idea: freedom.

That was your mistake.

You let yourself think that college was all about the ups and downs, the curved balls, shouldering it, and moving on. However, you couldn't afford that - I couldn't afford that. You should have taken a bigger step forward, and let your worries give voice. But you did not, and now, sophomore you is suffering from the repercussions of your choices.

Although, I digress. Yes, you should have researched your major more. Yes, you should have seen the dedication and sacrifice it entailed. Yes, you should have been more active, but at the end of the day, the past is the past. And not everything was a mistake, right?

Freshman year was a learning experience, and now, here is the future you trying to rectify your mistakes by helping out others in their college applications. Here is present you - me - reaching out to the future freshman:

Future freshman/college applicants,

Transitioning into college whether if you are a resident or a commuter will be difficult. It will be daunting, maybe even slightly traumatizing, but it will be an experience you cannot replicate anywhere else. However, while it promises freedom - realize that it is a two-edged sword. Freedom comes with a price and a responsibility which many fail to balance perfectly.

And that is okay, but before you jump into this dream of liberation, remember this when you apply to college:

SAT scores don't amount as much as your transcript; aim for average or somewhere close to it and you will be fine.

Research your major. Research double-majoring and duel majoring; research your field. Some majors are more strict, competitive, and time-consuming. Some will require you to sacrifice your time, and you have to gauge if you will personally be okay with that.

Don't compare your scores to others, get mentors, get help - ask if you have questions. It is a great four years that lies ahead of you, but it is also four years of your life that will shape your future and determine where you will go. So do what you have to do, and be as informed as possible.

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15 Things A Girl Should Master Before She's 20

When push comes to shove, you have to show people what you're made of.

We all dream about what our lives will be like when we finally turn 20.

Once we turn the big 2-0, there are about 15 things that us girls should know how to do. If you want to be a successful, independent, badass woman, this list will definitely help you out.

So, let's get started. You should be able to do the following things:

1. Own up to your mistakes

We all have our faults, but when you know you messed up, own up to it.

2. Learn to receive constructive criticism positively

We're not perfect. If friends and family give their input, just listen. They're trying to help.

3. Have a bomb signature

Signing your name is a mundane task, but leaving your mark looks good. Plus, boldly signing your name on a receipt for something you probably shouldn't have bought will definitely feel better.

4. Be able to forgive

Holding on to grudges does nothing but fill you up with negativity and resentment. Forgive and let go. 9 times out of 10, holding that grudge is not worth losing your best friend.

5. Tell a guy off

Come on girls, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Tell him how you feel. Stop being so nice. You don't need that negativity in your life.

6. Stand up for yourself

I understand it is easier said than done, but when push comes to shove, you have to show people what you're made of. At this point, letting others walk over you is just dumb.

7. Put on winged eyeliner

Hopefully, all of us have moved on from putting eyeliner in our waterlines. Hopefully, we have moved on to bigger and better things.

8. Be able to cook at least one meal (well)

It doesn't have to gourmet, but at least be able to make something for yourself. Even it's just breakfast.

9. Write a professional email

This is such an important one. No one is going to be able to take you seriously if you still use emojis in your emails.

10. Have a killer handshake (no dainty princess crap)

Having a good handshake isn't just for guys; this one is for us, too! Your handshake is one of the first things people notice about you, so make it a good one.

11. Make yourself a cup of coffee

If you have a Keurig, don't worry; this one isn't very tricky at all!

12. Take care of your body

As we get older, our metabolisms slow down and our lives get busier. Instead of doing what's convenient and easy, really think about what you are putting into your body. Stay active. Your body will appreciate it.

13. Do your own laundry and iron

If you still don't know how to do this, we have a problem. This is an essential skill. Don't let you mom do it for you!

14. Take a good picture

We've all been there. Taking a pic for your friends and then having to do it again. By now, you should have this skill mastered, too. Plus, you have to do it for the mems, right??

15. Live life with a positive attitude

Life is short. Let go of the negativity. Be grateful for what you have in life. Live life with a smile on your face.

Alright girls, do you know how to do these 15 things? If not, it's time to learn. You got this!

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It's Okay To Not Be Okay

Don't think that you have to be "on" 100% of the time, because that's very unlikely.


A lot of people don't realize that it is okay to not be okay because they think that they have to be 100% 24/7, but that is unrealistic. You need to understand that everyone struggles and that you are not expected to be on top of your game every second of every day.

This doesn't mean that you need to go around telling everyone you're doing horribly when they ask you how you are doing, but don't let yourself believe the lie that it's not okay to not be okay.

I had a woman recently tell me that her faith in Jesus was questioned when they realized that she wasn't okay. She was so heartbroken because she knows where her faith lies, but that doesn't take away the hurt in her heart considering her situation. She knew that Jesus would and will see her through this situation, but it was going to hurt.

It's not okay for us to undermine others' worth when they're not okay.

If you're telling everyone that you're "great" 99.9% of the time then you're lying. I hate to say that, but we all struggle and nobody is exempt from it. Some may handle those days and moments better than others and that is great, but it's unlikely that those never struggle or have struggled a day in their lives.

I don't believe that this means we should relish in our angst, hurt, and disappointment, but that when we are hurting we shouldn't be made to feel less. We will have moments of weakness and while it's okay to not be okay it's important to seek someone we love and trust who will help point us to Jesus who will comfort us.

When you're hurting and you're not okay please seek Jesus. Find that person who holds you accountable and let them be there for you. Don't think you're not allowed to hurt, because it is okay, but don't let it consume you.

Jesus loves you and He will always comfort you, but you have to be willing. Seek Him and allow Him to hold you when you're not okay.

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