To The Hopeless Romantic

To The Hopeless Romantic

For those who are looking, waiting, wishing for love.

If you're anything like myself, you have a heart of gold who wants nothing more than to love someone tenfold the way you love yourself. However, being a hopeless romantic in a "hook-up" culture can be heart wrenching sometimes, to the point where the hopeless part really comes into full affect. You want nothing more than to love and to be loved, to have someone to love and cherish, to share this life with.

But girl, know that you will get that. Know that love isn't something that you go out your front door and start looking for one day. Rather, it's something that comes into your life when you least expect it, and also when you're most ready for it. It comes when you truly and sincerely are in love with yourself and all that you are, when you know that it's okay to be by yourself. It comes when you go through trials and tribulations, but don't seek someone out to lay all the pain upon. It comes when you are excited and looking forward to your future and the things to come, because yourself and your success are all that you actually currently see in your future.

So my advice to you, you beautiful human being, is to be patient. Be patient and focus on yourself; getting to know yourself more, learning to love yourself for all that you are, flaws included, and focusing on creating a successful and happy future. Work on building yourself into an even better person, someone who you fall in love with every single day when you see that person looking back at you in the mirror. Be comfortable enough with your own being to be able to confidently say, "I don't need a man to make me whole," and truly believe that in your heart. Because just while you are working on yourself, the man of your dreams is working on himself as well, building his heart and soul up to love you the way you deserve to be loved, waiting patiently for you to walk into his life.

Most importantly, don't pour your heart and soul into someone who is only temporary, someone who can only give you back fifty percent of them when you are giving one hundred and ten percent, someone who doesn't see all that you have to offer. Don't give someone your tomorrow, when they're only giving you their today. Don't cheat yourself of the love you deserve, don't settle. We all want surprises, flowers on our doorstep, goodnight phone calls, random "I love you's," and everything in between that comes with a relationship. But wait until you can have all of that with the right person, with the person who deserves to hold your entire heart in the palm of his hand.

Your forever is out there, so until he walks so nonchalantly into your life, go out and be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Stop Making Instagram Your Only Outlet For Social Activism

Instagram is a great place to spread awareness, but stop confusing your desire for clout with your desire to save the world.


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Just as the use of Instagram and other forms of social media keeps growing, so has our generation's awareness of social issues. Everywhere I go, I get reminded of the issues our world is facing. Whether it be plastic, global warming, poverty, animal rights, etc., it is clear that our generation wants to see a change. Even though this is amazing, recently I've noticed that so many people my age are confusing the true desire to spread social awareness with the desire to make their Instagram account look better.

A few months ago on Earth Day, my Instagram feed was flooded with pictures of nature. Almost all of these pictures were of girls at the beach, or hiking with their friends, or even taken from the window of an airplane. While the idea of posting about how much you love the Earth and want to save it is a harmless idea, it does nothing to actually save the planet.

I fully support posting a picture of yourself at the beach, and showing off your confidence, but don't post it on Earth Day, pretending it's the ocean behind you that you care about. If you really want to save the Earth and make a difference, posting a yearly Earth Day picture of yourself is not the way to do it. Wanting likes and clout on social media is a part of how today's generation values themselves and each other, but thinking that this is actually promoting any form of social justice is plain wrong.

More recently, videos of baby calves being taken away from their mothers (highlighting the truth behind the dairy industry) have been flooding my social media feed. These videos are heartbreaking, and I am sure that the people posting them truly think they are horrific as well. Posting this type of content is a great way to spread initial awareness, but don't let it be your only outlet for promoting justice for the things you care about.

Social media keeps our world extremely interconnected, and without it, awareness of many of the problems our world is facing wouldn't reach nearly as far as it does. I'm not saying that using Instagram to spread awareness is a bad idea, I'm just saying that it shouldn't be your only outlet for doing so.

If you hate how much plastic our world consumes, go around to local stores and restaurants and ask them to cut their use of plastic. If you hate how the dairy industry treats cows, become a vegan. Promoting awareness while not actually doing anything to change the issues at hand is useless. Our generation is so strong and powerful, and we all need to stop hiding behind our desire for Instagram likes and start actually changing the things we care about.

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