Have you ever talked to someone who said all the right things and seemed perfect? A while back this good looking guy sent me a message on Twitter. Let's call him Thomas. My first reaction was what could he possibly want from me? What kind of game is he trying to play? I put my questions aside and started talking to him, pretty much every day. You know the “talking” phase. Granted I have “talked” to guys before, but that normally ended after a couple of weeks, because shortly they would find out that I was not giving them what they wanted. And I was perfectly fine with them walking away. But Thomas was different, which was what pulled me in even more. I developed some hard feelings for this guy, and I had no control of it.

Everyday we texted nonstop. I received those good morning texts that we all love so much, and it felt awesome to feel special like that. Turns out we had a lot in common as well, which added to the list for why I liked him. We both enjoyed vacationing at the beach and working out, and we both are motivated to be successful. In the beginning, I had a really hard time believing that Thomas was actually interested in me. I have not had the greatest run-ins with guys, so I have kept my guard up for as long as I can remember, until he came along. Thomas was funny, sweet, smart, honest blah blah blah, all the desirable qualities I wanted in a potential boyfriend. As I mentioned in the beginning, I was very hesitant. I constantly pushed him away, because I was absolutely terrified of having my heart broken. I have seen so many friends of mine get hurt in relationships, and their experiences always made me want to run for the hills. At one point, I apologized for pushing him away and admitted my fear of being hurt. All he told me was to not push him away, so I didn’t. I put my fears aside and went into this head on and did not look back. We talked about everything; his family life, his hobbies, his goals and his past relationships. Notice how I say his his, his and his. I thought maybe asking all these questions would encourage him to ask me something. But no. He asked nothing, and this never changed.

At this point you’re probably thinking I’m pretty stupid for not realizing that he just wasn't into me. And yeah, I was pretty stupid, but I just couldn't face the fact that Thomas was just like all the other lovely guys I have been so fortunate to cross paths with. Even though I was stupid, I still broke down crying and sobbed for a while. But eventually, I wiped my tears away and realized how ridiculous I was being. And for the record, I'm not writing this article to bash him. This is meant to show you guys that you're not the only people who make mistakes. And I just want to say thank you to Thomas, not for stomping on my feelings, but for showing me what I don’t want from a potential partner.

So, thank you for calling me hot instead of beautiful. You've made me want someone who isn’t attracted to just the outside of me but also the inside. Thank you for texting me everyday instead of every couple of days. You've made me see that I do not need a guy to text me everyday for me to know if he’s interested in me or not. Thank you for lying about basically everything. I’ve always wanted someone who is honest with me, but you’ve shown me that anyone can lie over the phone. Thank you for messaging me on Twitter. You've made me realize that I shouldn’t spend so much time getting to know someone through social media or texting. It should be in person where you cannot wait a few minutes to come up with a lie, then hit send. Thank you for never asking me anything about myself. You made me realize that I want someone who is genuinely interested in getting to know me. Thank you for showing me what I don’t deserve in a guy. I’ve always known what I deserved, but I was too scared to go out and find the guy who would treat me the way I should be treated. Thank you for helping me get over my fear of being hurt. I may still have my guard up, but the right guy will have the patience to take those guards down.

I know the right guy for me is out there somewhere, but hey, I’m still young and have a lot more to worry about than finding the right person for me. I’m not a patient person, but I will be patient when it comes to finding the right guy. After all, good things come to those who wait.