I see a lot of pictures and memes bashing girls who friend-zone the "right guy". You know the one I mean, the guy who stays up till 2 am even though he has an 8am the next morning, just to talk to you about how horrible of a morning you had. He's the same person who puts you first in every scenario just so you feel worthy of that kind of love. Only to find out that love comes with a catch. Ladies, you don't get to have a male best friend without being bashed because you didn't love them back in the right way.

I, myself, have been there. My guy best friend was undoubtedly one of my favorite people in life. He was funny, smart, kind, loyal, and a good friend to just about everyone. I like to think God brought us together because at this point in both of our lives, he needed someone to love and I needed to be loved. What God didn't tell us was that my guy best friend wanted someone to love him back, and I needed someone to be a friend-not a boyfriend. I didn't lead him on, and my intentions from the very start were crystal clear. We did things that friends do; things I saw, first hand, him do with other girls, which made me believe those things were okay for us too. The problem is, when you become friends with someone of the opposite sex, if they start to look at you in a different way than you look at them, your friendship is essentially over. I've never heard of a situation where it worked having one person in the party care for the other person in a completely different way. It's either you look at each other as friends, or one falls in love and ruins it all.
At the end of the day, it's the persons fault who couldn't love their friend back. Everything that person did for them, comes back to reasons as to why you should actually love them, and why you're wrong for not. So the time that they stayed up really late with you just to talk through all your tears, or the time you pulled an all nighter to binge watch your favorite show, or them meeting you for lunch on a day you didn't really want to eat but just sit there and talk..you find out that all of those days were actually a lie because they never wanted to do that as a friend they wanted to do that as a boyfriend, and the second that you couldn't see them in your life that way you become the bad guy.
So I guess this is for the girls that have had the same thing happened to them, for the ones that are shamed for loving the wrong type of man because the wrong type of man is apparently every single person who isn't your supposed best friend.

And to my ex best friend, I will always love you. I know that it won't be in the way that you want, and I understand that the friendship that we once had will never be here again. We've both said too many hurtful things to ever go back to a comfortable place again. There are things we can't take back, and truthfully I don't know if you would if you could. Maybe I messed up by thinking I could have a friend of the opposite sex, and in return maybe I was given someone-who for the rest of my life would try and make me and others believe I was in the wrong for not seeing him the way I should have.
No, I never loved you like you loved me, but that doesn't mean that my heart didn't care for you in a way that you deserved. I'm sorry that that wasn't good enough.
I wish that I loved you because that would mean that I could still have you in my life, but I wasn't meant to love you, and if that means I can't have you in my life then I guess that's what God wanted, right?
I'm sorry that I hurt you and I'm sorry that we don't get to live out the future the way we had planned, together. As friends. But there was some point in our friendship where you begin to resent me, and I don't know if that's because I appreciated you so much as a friend that you felt not good enough or deserving of anything more..or if it was because you envisioned that one day our friendship would exceed to much more. That's just not what I saw for the two of us, and I had hoped you thought something similar.
I will always miss you, and I can assure you that each day that goes by where I don't have the friendship we once did, I feel a little bit lost. But like you, I started to resent you too. For giving me an ultimatum, and basically deciding that if I couldn't have you in my life as a boyfriend than I didn't get you in my life at all. I'm hurt that after knowing you for so long it was so easy to cut ties with me, and pretend to the world around you that my life never once aligned with yours so perfectly.
I don't know if you needed reassurance because if that's the case you were so much to me, and you were a person that I needed. I don't know if that's selfish, but In a way I think I was the same person to you, but as time went on I think the roles we played in each others lives started to become influenced by what we wanted for one another.
You see I wanted a friend, that wouldn't feed me this bullshit-fake story about how I'm so pretty and deserve the best, but would tell me when I was being a bitch to the guy I was talking to, or when I was out of my mind for texting a guy who didn't deserve me. You wanted a girlfriend, one that believed the same things as you, could make you laugh, and love to be with you as much as I did, myself. Somehow we both got so lost in the visions that we had for one another that I think we lost sight of what we originally were. And I'm partly sorry for that.
I can't let you back in the way I once did, but that thought is easier to take in now that I know you're happy with somebody else. Deep down that brings me some comfort.
Originally, I thought that maybe this meant you finally had room for a friend, but it turns out you'll never have room in your life for me. Here I was all this time thinking you wouldn't have room for another girl in your life that served multiple purposes: a friend, someone to listen to you, and someone to love you. When really you just don't have time in your life for me because the things that I can offer you don't live up to what you want them to be.
I'm not sorry that I couldn't love you because I do, but I'm sorry that I can't love you in the way that you want me to because I don't. In my heart I know that anytime you need me, whether it's a text, phone call, or even in person, I would drop everything to be there. But I think what hurts me the most is that for somebody who wanted so much more from me, you'll never once be willing to offer the same thing.
I hope that you fill this void with someone; somebody really special that allows you to see all your worth. And I hope that on days where you feel your lowest she's able to get across to you what a truly, remarkable person you are.