We all know the girl who has a boyfriend or always wants one if they aren’t dating someone at the moment. I worry about the girls like this. It’s probably not my place to worry about them but I do. Now, I am not like this. I've never had a boyfriend unless you count that one guy in 6th grade that I “dated” for a weekend.

With girls that tend to have a lot of boyfriends, I've noticed that their interests change to fit what the boys like. I figure this is because the girl only knows herself when she’s with someone. The friend I had in mind while writing this piece perfectly fits this trend. She dated a nerdy kid and started to like Dungeons and Dragons. She dated a guy who vaped a lot and dreamed of becoming a vape god.

She dated a hunting republican and started thinking maybe Donald Trump is a good choice for president. Now she’s dating a guy who’s your classic college boy, drinking Natty Lights and smoking weed. My friend was completely against these things growing up. She’d come to parties and would adamantly refuse to drink or smoke but now, her boyfriend does it, so she does too now. And maybe it’s because that’s what people do in college and she’s realized that it’s a part of the experience.

Either way, my point is that she had never expressed interest in any of these things before these boys came into her life. I get that interests change, and maybe she was trying to find herself, but you would think by age 19 she’d have some idea of what she, alone, liked. But like I said above maybe she’s unaware of what she truly likes because she’s always had a boyfriend to fill in the blanks. However, it should not be that one-sided. It should not always be what your boyfriend wants to do or what he’s interested in.

Now don’t get me wrong- yes it is okay to enjoy things your boyfriend likes, that’s part of the relationship. But he should also want to do things that you enjoy and with a lot of these girls who are constantly in relationships I’ve noticed that doesn’t happen. These girls live a life where there are boys that constantly want them so it may be easy to always have a boyfriend, but I don't envy them.

I wouldn’t say that there’s a real solution to this and I’m not trying to say that this is a problem that should be fixed. I’m not going to tell a girl to stop dating people and figure herself out because that’s not my place. I would just hope that girls like this can realize that being without a boyfriend isn’t all that bad, and that they can learn to hold on to a stronger part of themselves in the process.