When in a relationship, the typical thing to do is to focus on your significant other. But, sometimes the sad reality is that you get lost in the other person without even realizing it. This person becomes your world, your rock. Their struggles become yours, their fights become yours, and their pain becomes yours…literally. You want to leave, right? But he’s going to change, he promised he would. But, remember when he said he’d change and he didn’t? How about all of the times he hurt you, lied, played with your heart, messed with your head? Your gut tells you to run, to leave, and never look back, but every time you entertain the thought of leaving you can not gather the emotional strength to do it. A part of your brain always makes up excuses.
If you are in a relationship with someone who used to make you happy, but no longer does, you are not staying out of love, you are staying out of fear. You’re afraid you may never find someone else; you’re afraid you will not like being single; you’re afraid you are not good enough for someone else’s love. Instead of taking the chance to move on, you settle. You settle for less than you deserve. You think you can live with things the way they are. But the truth is, you can not, and you know it. Staying in this relationship is going to prevent your personal growth. Your fights are extremely one- sided which makes you blame yourself for the things that he did.
This is making you feel small. You may be feeling worthless, helpless, hopeless. In reality, you are none of the above. A healthy relationship encourages growth, and leaving this man will show personal strength. Everyday there is room to grow as a person, with positive influences of course. Leaving this relationship creates room for healthy ones. Toxic relationships push aside other relationships such as with friends, family, and other romantic relationships. It is better to be alone rather than in bad company. In a relationship, you should feel loved, safe, healthy, with a sense of security. If you feel that you are imprisoned rather than in happiness, it is time to walk away. You are worth more than being in a toxic relationship.
