You know me and I surely know you. To you, I'm just "the best friend." To me, you're the girl who ruined what was supposed to be a blissful and happy time in my best friend's life. She was supposed to be a carefree college girl with everything ahead of her. Instead, she turned into someone who exchanged the fun college experience for nights of crying. She wouldn't eat, wouldn't sleep, and the worst? She told herself she wasn't good enough for anyone and that's why he cheated. She believed you were better than her.

Is that true, though? Are you better?

I honestly don't know the answer because I don't know you. I mean, I know your name because we used it like it was a dirty, unacceptable curse word. I know your face since we spent a lot of time picking out your flaws. I know what you did wrong. That's all. But I don't really know you personally.

I didn't know who you were before you decided to disregard her happiness. I didn't know who you were before you spent a summer stealing someone's heart when it already belonged to another. And I sure didn't know who you were before you built a relationship based on lies.

I didn't know you and I hated you. I called you ugly and unreasonable names to anyone who would listen. There were countless nights I just wished you would disappear or, even better, that you never existed. I was utterly repulsed by you. That hostility started to eat away at me and create a true darkness in my heart.

I spent a lot of time praying for peace and recently, I found it. I want to be intentional with you and tell you that I don't have that negativity anymore. I'm sorry for being angry at you for so long and for all of the ill feelings I harbored. My heart does ache for you though.

All those months while my best friend was grieving, I blamed her despair on you. I believed it was all your fault and that your sole purpose was ruining lives. Her newly acquired trust issues and low self worth was all on your head. I see now how pigheaded I was being.

However, what I failed to see was the irony in the situation.

My friend and her boyfriend were together for years and they genuinely loved each other. But after one summer and the appearance of a shiny new toy (FYI: the shiny toy was you), he so readily gave up everything without a second thought. How exactly does someone do that?

You know the saying, "If they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you"? This has never proven more true and I am heartbroken because of that. I am heartbroken for you.

My best friend is beautiful, kindhearted, and perfectly made to reflect all the love and grace we were created to possess. She was selfless and gave more to him than he would've ever been able to give her. He still left though. He left for a girl he knew for one summer. For a girl who didn't offer him her whole heart and soul. And for a girl who didn't love him unconditionally for every one of his many flaws.

What does that say for your future relationship with him?

I'm sorry. Sorry for many months I spent hating you instead of praying for you. Because although you made poor decisions, you are still perfectly and wonderfully made by our God. He still loves you and He knows your worth. This is all in His plan for you and could be either a lesson or a blessing.

It is not okay what you did. Not at all. But I have no right to lecture you or to judge you. I do have the right to pray though, and trust me, I've prayed for you a lot lately. I pray that you find peace and comfort. I pray for you to not be held down by such a weak man -- actually, a boy; a boy so weak that he couldn't even admit to his wrongdoings.

I want you to find happiness and to be rid of all the guilt that I'm sure you're feeling. I want you to find the strength to learn from this. I so deeply hope for you to find a man who is an image of our great God -- who fears God and is faithful to Him and to you. Most importantly, I want you to grow through Christ and have all the happiness in the world.

My best friend is okay now. She's growing from this experience every day. She knows her worth, she knows how loved she is, and she knows that you are not better than her. The satisfaction she's found has been through her education, her passions, and the beautiful relationship she has built with others. Her faith is now more important than the love of a man.

I truly hope you find that too.