To The Girl Who Isn't In A Sorority

To The Girl Who Isn't In A Sorority

A few things that hold true even if you decide on not going Greek on bid day.

Every freshman girl probably spends too much time than is necessary thinking about recruitment. Sorority life looks like so much fun. Date parties, swaps, lifelong friends, bigs/littles - the list goes on and on. But those girls who aren't in sororities still have fun. Sorority life isn't for everyone, and that is okay.

Let me start by saying that this is not an article bashing sororities. Some of my best friends are in sororities, and I would think they're awesome regardless of if they're in a sorority or not in one.

You will still make friends.

Obviously,I one of the main reasons girls want to join a sorority is to meet new people and make new friends. While I 100% believe that girls meet their absolute best friends in their sorority, I also believe that their are other ways to make friends. I met friends in my dorm, in my bible study, in my classes, and at the gym. The only way you won't make friends in college is if you literally don't go anywhere and don't say anything. So, don't be discouraged if you don't make friends in the first week of school, God will place people in your life when He sees fit.

You aren't the only one.

When trying to decide whether of not to drop out of recruitment, I kept thinking to myself, "All my friends are going to be in a sorority. I'm going to be the only one who isn't." I was wrong. It turns out that 80% of my campus isn't Greek either. College is a time to be selfish and do what you want to do. Sorority life seemed fun, but it just didn't seem like it was for me.

There are other ways go get involved.

Being in a sorority makes it really easy to get involved. But there are many other ways to get involved, too. Going to things like RUF, Welsley, or Baptist Student Union provide a great foundation for getting involved in even more things in college. Your schools website probably has a list of different organizations that are at your campus, as well.

You have plenty of free time.

Some people think this is an advantage, and some people don't. I know that it did not bother me one bit when my friends had to leave somewhere to go get ready for chapter. I have been participating in "no makeup Monday" for a while now, and I would hate to have to wear it for a sorority meeting. I don't have to worry about waking up early to participate in Watermelon Fest or Derby Days, but I can still go watch all my friends perform in the afternoon. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want to.

God still loves you.

I may be wrong, but I highly doubt the first thing God says to girls when they go into Heaven is "Hey, what sorority were you apart of?" God loves us all- regardless of our age, occupation, or extracurricular activities. He loved you before college, and he will love you long after your college years are over.

Sure, you might miss out on a few things if you aren't in a sorority. But not being in one does not define you or make you weird. Some of the most successful people in the world are not Greek affiliated. No matter what you decide to do with your college years, the most important thing is that you stay happy and have fun. Stay true to you and I promise you will end up undeniably happy.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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I Didn't Join A Panhellenic Sorority

It's okay if you don't join a panhellenic sorority. Sometimes a different organization can turn out to be the best thing.


Before going to college I was faced with a dilemma, should I rush? I wanted to rush just for the social aspect, I thought it would be my best shot at making a bunch of friends. However, deep down I knew that greek life really wasn't me. I didn't want to do something if I wasn't one hundred percent behind it. There was a part of me that did want to be in a sorority but the other part of me really didn't want to rush. Let me be clear, I don't think Greek life is bad, I just think it wasn't for me. I talked to my brother and sister-in-law about this because they both were in Greek life at the college I attend now; they told me that they didn't think I would like it either.

What my brother and sister-in-law told me that I might like was, a Christian sorority called Sigma Phi Lambda. When they described it to me it seemed like exactly what I was wanting. As soon as I got to college I sought them out; and I went to their recruitment nights. I loved it! It was exactly what I was looking for. I ended up joining. This sorority brought me an amazing group of friends! Most importantly, I have joined the perfect sorority for me! A few things I liked most about Sigma Phi Lambda was the people were so welcoming, it was more low key and laid back, I was still able to have a big and a "Pham", we still did lots of sorority things whilst also having activities that strengthened us on our walks with the Lord, and I gained so many sisters that I now have strong relationships with. Sigma Phi Lambda gave me so many friends and something to be involved in on campus. They gave me somewhere to belong and I am so glad I chose to join them.

Rushing may be exactly what you need when you go to college, but if it's not that is okay. Just join something that makes you happy. Join an organization that helps you grow and surrounds you with people that you want to be around. I promise when you get to college that there is an organization for just about everything, find the one that fits you. No matter what you choose I promise it's good. Just make sure you choose what is right for you.

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