He is abusive, he loses his temper, he yells at the top of his lungs and he resorts to alcohol and drugs to escape his own problems. He takes all of his anger and stress about life out on you. You are innocent, and he thinks that you care too much about him to ever leave, so he lets it all out on you. You know you don't deserve it, but you believe in the power of love. You believe that if you stay, your love for him will get you through. That love will make the difference, and you think that leaving would only cause more problems. You spend countless days debating whether or not your relationship is healthy. You have this image of love in your head that looks like a Disney movie, and you hope that one day your relationship will be like that.
You know that what you have isn't right, so why do you stay?
You stay because you hope for a day when things will suddenly become better and you think that you will never find someone else that you will love like you love him. As someone who constantly gives people second chances, I know that at some point you can't continue forgiving people. You are setting them back, by staying with them.
None of these problems will be solved unless you leave. When someone is abusive towards anything, they need to be left by themselves to discover their problem on their own. The best healing for a person comes when they recognize a problem and take initiative on their own. They remember what it felt like to have pride and how they should treat others.
To the girl who does not think she will find someone else; YOU WILL. When you stay with someone who is abusive and causes you to constantly doubt yourself and your self-worth, you are keeping yourself from finding the person that you are meant to be with. No one on this Earth is deserving of making you feel like anything less than your best. Underneath every woman is a warrior, a fighter, and someone who can tackle the world; never let anyone crush that.
Find a man who loves you for you, and that does not want you to be anything other than yourself. Find a man who would take a bullet for you. Find a man who worships you and not one that makes you beg at their knees for forgiveness. Trust me. They are out there.
There are plenty of gentleman in this world. Sometimes, the guys that appear the toughest on the outside are actually the ones with the softest inside. It takes a caring woman to come and peel away those layers. If you are in a relationship that is unhealthy, get out. Get out because there is something better out there for you.
