Relationships, in general, are hard and they take a lot of work. When you take two people and you try to merge their lives together, you’re going to butt heads and it’s not going to be the easiest task in the world. Anyone who has ever been in any kind of relationship can tell you that. Even though relationships are hard, I think that girls get it the hardest. We’re usually the more sensitive person in the relationship and let’s face it, we just think more emotionally about things than men do. Nothing against men, but it’s the truth. I’m just here to tell you that it’s okay to be the sensitive and emotional person in the relationship and that a relationship or a man does not define you as a person or your worth.
Everyone slips up and makes mistakes sometimes. Whether it’s you or your boyfriend, do not let it bring you down. He may lie, cheat, abuse you, walk away, or do anything else that may potentially hurt you in some way. A lot of girls will blame themselves for these situations. You weren’t pretty enough, smart enough, funny enough. You just weren’t enough, right? You always fall short of deserving the treatment that every girl wants and deserves and the only reasons you can come up with are all reasons that lead straight back to whatever is wrong with you. When all you can think about is how undeserving you are, please remember this: it is not your fault and you deserve the world. You are more than what has happened to you.
You may have made mistakes in your past, but that does not mean that you deserve anything less than the absolute best. If a boy hurts you, it’s because he can’t see what he has in front of him. If someone wants to take the easy way out, let them walk away. If it’s meant to be, they’ll come back and they’ll work to make things right again. You do not owe anyone anything and you did not fall short of deserving what you’re truly worth. A boy cannot define your worth because you are beautifully made and you are worth more than you could ever even imagine. Anyone who blames you for how they have treated you is simply forgetting or refusing to see that they’re human as well and have also made some kind of mistakes in their life. Don’t let people push you around and make you feel like you’re not good enough in any way because you will always be more than enough. Someday someone will love you and all of your imperfections. They’ll accept the fact that you’re not perfect and they won’t pressure you to be. They will love you for exactly who you are and you will never have to feel like you deserve less than what you’re getting again.
As a girl who has been in the position of feeling that she was constantly falling short of deserving someone’s love and affection, I know that it’s not easy to change your mindset. It can feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders and like you’re all alone. What I want is for you to know is that there are other girls out there that feel the same way and you are not alone. Even though it’s hard, you have to pick yourself up and decide that you are more than a relationship and you are more than what any boy can say to you, do to you, or think about you. You were created as one independent person and it’s okay to stay that way. Being in a relationship is not what makes you who you are. Your boyfriend does not determine what you’re worth. You are only as strong as you choose to be and you should choose to be everything that God has created you to be. I can promise you that life is so much easier and it’s such a freeing feeling when you choose this for yourself and stop relying on other people to define who you are and what you deserve in life. If you fall six times, stand up seven times and love yourself for having the courage to try again because you’ll never be able to fall short enough that you’re unworthy of what God has planned for you.
