To The Girl That Plans

To The Girl That Plans

Life sometimes doesn't go according to plan, but that's okay.

I have always been a planner. Ever since I could write, I kept journals and diaries hidden under my bed. I fill my planners and phone calendar with to-do lists and assignments. I love plans and I love when I can stick to them. I am determined to see my plan to the end.

Since I was a little girl I have consistently been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” My first response at kindergarten graduation was atypical: I wanted to be what I called “a nail painter.”

There was a point in my childhood I wanted to be a pop star and then an actress. My friends and I obsessed over our go-to sleepover game, M-A-S-H. When it came to our futures, the sky was the limit. We knew who we wanted to be, the boy we wanted to marry (even if we claimed he had “cooties”) and where we wanted to live. As we grew up, we changed and so did our plans.

In high school when we were asked this question our answers became more relevant and serious. Not only were we expected to answer seriously, but this question was asked more frequently as the four years went on. It didn’t matter if we didn’t want to think about it, we were forced to.

As I entered high school, my plans for my future included one specific university whose colors are navy, gold and green and a job as a sports broadcaster. My friends and I talked about going to college together and visiting others that were further from us. We talked about all getting our dream jobs and having our kids be friends. We fill our Pinterest boards with our dream home and dream wedding, which are all great things.

What happens though when your plans unravel in front of you? What do you do when that boy wants nothing to do with you? What do you do when you get injured before the sports season your senior year? What do you do when a family member tragically passes away? What do you do when you didn’t get into the college you have been planning on since the second grade? What do you do when you can’t sleep at night because you don’t know what you are doing tomorrow or with the rest of your life?

Don’t worry – I’ve been there.

After so many “worst days ever”, I believe there comes a time when we realize that our fate is not in our hands. We can try our hardest, but that is the best we can do, try. Life is going to give us more curve balls and speed bumps than we think we can handle, but it will be easier if we fully trust that we are in the right place and we are a here for a reason.

So, to the girl who always has a plan like me- keep planning. Write it all down. Share it with others. Make new friends, but always keep your old ones close. Move on from that guy that shattered your heart. Spend all the time you possibly can with loved ones and your family. You’ll always be your daddy’s little girl and your mom will always be your hero and role model. Remind them that. They had plans and one of them included you. Enjoy every rainy day and the spontaneous road trips with friends. Remember your purpose, even when you don’t remember your plan.

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A Thank You To My Boyfriend's Family

Because you are so important to him, you are important to me.

This one isn't easy to sit down and write because nothing I could say would do all of you justice in the way that I would hope I could. These are just words, but I hope that I am able to always show my thank you to you by treating him like the prince he is.

I can replay the moment of meeting each and every one of you all over and over in my head like it was yesterday. I was so extremely nervous every single time and I was trying to gather all the "right" things to say that would leave a good, first-lasting impression and that at the end of the day, you all would like me.

I think one of the most important basis and hopes in my relationship is that my significant other's family likes who I am. This is so important to me because whatever is important to him is equally important to me and your thoughts of me are crucial to our relationship.

The second I walked in the door, I was overwhelmed—overwhelmed with such a love. I had no idea at that point in time just how much you would all mean to me and how thankful I am for all of you!

Thank you for constantly making me laugh and feel at home.

Whenever I'm coming over for a family gathering or just to hang out, I know right off that I am walking into a world of laughter and good times are right beside that. You are all so entertaining and always have a good story to tell me. I can't name one time where I didn't feel like I was home.

And I appreciate the sweet, embarrassing photos and stories about my boyfriend that you all share with me! Even if it is by a photo, I have a glimpse of what his life has always been like thanks to each and every one of you individually.

Thank you for sharing your special moments in life with me.

You don't ever have to, but you invite me anyway. Whether it's just a family gathering, a birthday, or a holiday, I am thankful to have spent those times celebrating these moments in life alongside such amazing people. It's humbling and heartwarming to be a part of memories so unforgettable that you all share and that you have welcomed me to be a part of. They are days that I will never forget and have a place in my heart forever.

Thank you for always being there for him.

Since we have started dating, I have watched the way that you guys love him. I have watched the individual relationships and moments that you share with him make a difference in who he is. I have seen you all love and support him, no matter what he was doing.

With everything that comes along in life, this has been a simple reminder of an unconditional, loving, sacrificing family that is also the best support system. You are not only impacting him, but me, too.

Thank you for welcoming me in like your own.

Whenever you have to brave up and meet your significant other's family, I can say, for myself, that I didn't know what to expect. As I'm sure, none of you did when meeting me. Today, I catch myself wondering why I even worried in the first place. You all have welcomed me in your own ways and made me feel right at home. It is not always easy to do that with just anyone, but you have all taken the time to get to know me. And now I know that if I ever needed anything, I can call one of you.

Thank you for letting me date him.

I am most thankful for this. Thank you for sharing him with me and giving me a chance to show you all how important he is to me. I never thought that I would luck out and meet someone as special, kind, and wonderful as he is, but I did.

You have supported our relationship, given me a chance to love him, and welcomed me to new adventures in love and family. I have the upmost gratitude for each of you. You are the most wonderful, welcoming, and loving family. I am overjoyed to be able to experience just a glimpse of this life with him and with all of you.

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5 Things You Understand if You Are The Baby of the Group

That's okay, have fun without me

If you are one of the youngest members of your friend group, then you know just how it feels when everyone starts turning 21. Here are 5 things that only the babies of the friend group understand.

1. Always the DD

Once your friends start turning 21 and decide to go out, guess who gets to pick them up? That's right. You. The one that still isn't 21.

2. The mom

You may be the youngest, but when your friends come back from a good night out, you are the most responsible and mature one of the group. You are the one that has to take care of them.

3. Being left out of things

Well, if you aren't 21, you can't go to that cool bar that everyone else is talking about or on that wine tour.

4. Home alone on the weekend

While everyone else gets to go out and have fun on the weekend, you get to sit at home in your pajamas, watching TV. Sure this isn't a terrible thing, but when you are getting snapchats, and seeing your friends post about the fun they are having, you feel left out.

5. By the time you turn 21, your friends are over the hype.

You are finally 21 and you invite all of your friends. You are so excited, and they are excited for you, but after that night, you wanna go out and have fun, but your friends don't wanna go out as much because the hype of them turning 21 has faded.

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