To the girl going through heartbreak,

When you’re in a relationship, you never realize how badly giving someone so much of you will destroy you if things don’t exactly end the way you expect them to. Well, at least you don’t until it’s too late. And that is my current situation, it’s too late. Opening up to a person takes a lot, sharing all your darkest secrets or giving them pieces of yourself you can never get back. But what do you do when you’ve done all that you can and you have nothing left to give? When the one person who made a point to tell you every day how much they love you, now tells you they no longer do. See I believed once you loved someone you could never stop loving them, maybe I was wrong. I tried so hard for one person just to end up looking stupid in the end. Stupid when I told my family how different this time would be and how I actually started to believe in it myself.

The problem with love is that it is blinding.

Once you truly love someone you excuse their faults or the slip ups in your relationship. Once you love someone you accept them for their entire self not just a part. So when you’re in love, it’s hard to imagine a time when the other person just decides you’re no longer worth it. So what do you do once you get to that point? The problem here is he left like I was no longer a reason to stay; like somehow everything I ever did was never enough for him. And that’s what heartbreak really is. Heartbreak isn’t just that person leaving, heartbreak is when you begin to fill yourself with doubt. When you go through every scenario of things you should’ve said, should’ve done differently, or should’ve tried harder.

Let’s face it, with every break up we all blame ourselves because we pull to the surface every mistake we have made. Instead of blaming ourselves, we need to realize that we did everything we could and there is nothing more to give. Sometimes it’s honestly a favor being given to us. Heartbreak sucks, there is no worse feeling. However, would you rather continue to be with someone who no longer wants to be with you or go find someone who will do everything in his power to make you happy? So it’s okay to cry, cry as much as you would like. I have had my fair share of those moments.

Be angry, get mad, but don’t get even. That’s the biggest mistake I have ever made or you could ever make. Getting even doesn’t make you feel any better, you will honestly feel worse. Because if you truly love them then you will never want to do anything to hurt them. The honest truth is even if it kills you their happiness is all you really want, and it’s okay if it’s no longer with you. Want the best for them and maybe one day they will look back at all you have given them and realize how badly they screwed up. Or maybe one day you’ll look back and be so grateful that they allowed you to move on. Not a single person deserves to be picked up and dropped whenever timing is convenient, everyone deserves someone who couldn’t even bear to walk away.

So yes it hurts, heartbreak feels like your heart is being torn from your chest. But it only hurts until it doesn’t. One day you will stop picking up the phone and being there. One day you will no longer feel sad or empty. One day you will just wake up and realize you deserve so much more. And when that day comes you will finally be free. There are so many more fish in the sea for you, the right one will come.