An Open Letter To The Friend Who Left

An Open Letter To The Friend Who Left

I know that some friends are in your life only for a certain amount of time, and I guess that was us. I just wish it didn't end the way it did.

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Dear Friend,

I miss you. A lot.

I still have the texts. And the pictures. And the cute little gifts.

Thank you for being there for me, even when I tried to isolate myself.

Thank you for walking into my mess and loving me anyway.

Thank you for the opportunity of knowing and loving you.


You taught me how to love in heartache.

You taught me how to let loose and be myself.

You taught me a new definition of strength.

I know that some friends are in your life only for a certain amount of time, and I guess that was us. I just wish it didn't end the way it did.

At first, I was angry. Angry that you left me and blamed me when I just tried to help. Then sad. Sad that you left when you knew that was my biggest fear. Then just confused. I didn't understand why, so I just shut down.


But,

I'm glad we were there for each other.

We both know that it was perfect timing that we met.

We became best friends instantly.

I felt like I had known you my whole life because it was like talking in the mirror with you.

You understood me like no one else did, without even asking.

I didn't have to explain what was wrong, because you just knew, sometimes before I even did.

I miss it.

I miss you.

And even years after we stopped being friends, you give me grace for where I am.

I'm so proud of how much you've accomplished.

Thank you for letting me into the hurt you were in as we grew in our friendship.

Thank you for trusting me and letting me help where I could.

You're so unbelievably strong, and I hope one day that you can see what I saw and still see in you.


So, as I grow and learn about myself more, I am working on forgiveness. Not just so that I can get over it or move on, but because I still love you and always will.


And I hope you know,

I still have the texts. And the pictures. And the cute little gifts.

You're still on my favorites list, and I will answer every time. Always.


I love you,

The one who will always stay

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While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

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When I signed up to study abroad, I knew there were going to be many struggles. I knew that I would be homesick, that budgeting would be an issue, and that not knowing anybody in the United Kingdom would be scary. I tried to prepare myself for these things. These were a few things that I was warned about before coming abroad. One thing that I wasn't informed of before coming abroad was that this will be a time when you realize who your true friends are. Three months into my program and I have learned just that.

It doesn't matter how busy a person gets or what the time difference is, if someone cares about you, they will make time to talk to you, right? Wrong. The girls who I used to call my best friends, go on church dates with, cry to, and rely on have not reached out to me since I moved to London. I have hardly gotten a "Hey, how's your trip going?" or "Hey, did you even make it to London?" I haven't gotten anything since I've been here. I was so unprepared for this. I thought that despite there being a six-hour time difference between us that I would be able to keep my old friendships from home. I was so wrong.

You see, when I asked my friend why nobody would talk to me since I've been abroad, I got many replies and they were all the same. "Everyone's jealous of the experience you're getting, so it's hard for us to talk to you." This response broke my heart. I never thought that at the age of twenty, girls would still be acting like they were in middle school. I was so oblivious to the idea that jealousy goes away over time. It doesn't. What hurts the most is that these girls who I thought I was so close to, are so self-absorbed and so jealous of my life that they can't talk to me. They literally cannot reach out to me because they are jealous. How ridiculous does that sound when you say it out loud? I think what hurts the most is that I thought that true friends were supposed to support you, lift you up, and support you. I didn't realize that friends let jealousy get in the way of a friendship. It's sad to say that my ex-boyfriend and I have face-timed and talked on the phone more than any of the girls I used to call my friends. We've even talked more than some of my family members and I because according to them, "the time difference is too much."

Let's get this straight, the time difference is too much for you, a full-time college student with no job, but it isn't too much for a full-time college student preparing to graduate in six weeks who also works a full-time job? I have more respect for this ex-boyfriend than I do for some of the girls who I thought were my friends. We talk every day and he never complains about the time difference, me being an ocean away, or says that he's jealous. In fact, he encourages me to stay in Europe longer than my program lasts and to see everything that I want to see before I fly home. HE is encouraging, supportive, and a far better friend than any of these girls ever could be.

Overall, I am so happy I studied abroad. Had I not studied abroad this semester, I most likely wouldn't have been able to see these girls' true colors this early on, and frankly, I am so happy I saw these colors now. It's disappointing that women have to be so jealous and can't be supportive, especially when at home and in church they put on an act as if they are the most supportive and uplifting people in Grand Forks, North Dakota. You're not uplifting, you're jealous and toxic and will never be able to keep a good group of friends surrounding you as long as you continue being someone who brings poison to other's lives.

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