Hey, we’ve all been there. We all had that one that got away, and we just can’t seem to let them go. Every girl is her own kind of crazy, and some of us are crazier than others. All good.
However, what is not all good is ruining your ex’s chances with someone new because you can’t let go of them and move on. Or worse, trying to ruin the new relationship they’re in.
Believe me, I’ve been there. I have been that crazy ex-girlfriend that clings on for as long as possible. I was that girl who always found a way to show up where my ex was and then find a way to talk to him and weasel my way back in.
I’m gonna let you in on something though...
That’s pathetic.
And rude.
And psycho.
Really, really psycho.
It doesn’t matter what you two had in the past. It’s over now. Relationships and flings end for a reason. Sometimes they start again, but they NEVER start again by ruining your ex’s relationship. Spoiler alert: if he/she wanted you that badly, they wouldn't have gotten into another relationship. Or, they would leave the relationship they are in and reach back out to you if they wanted to be with you. If those things aren't happening, they don't want to be with you.
As girls, we need to stick together. There are already so many people in this world that are against us for just being female. If we are working against each other, is anybody even really for us? If we are tearing other females down by trying to invade and manipulate their relationships, what does that say about females as a whole? More importantly, what does that say about you as a person?
What is it saying about yourself when your ex’s new girlfriend and all of her friends know you as the "crazy ex" because you make it your goal in life to get your ex back, no matter the costs? If you really love them, you would let them go and be happy.
Not to be rude, but my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend is like this. She has made fake accounts on social media to try to talk to him and somehow always finds a way to insult me whenever she can. She uses old accounts that he’s forgotten about to get a glimpse of his life.
At first, I felt sorry for her. I thought that maybe she just really missed him and needed someone but didn’t have anyone else. But there is a point on the crazy ex-girlfriend scale where refusing to let someone go moves from "normal" to just crazy. And we are there.
Nobody wants to be known as that crazy ex-girlfriend. Trust me, that’s a reputation that is hard to lose. Breakups can be hard. Moving on is definitely hard. But not sabotaging your ex and his/her new life really isn't THAT hard. Next time you go to stalk him/her or their new boo, put your phone down and accept that they aren’t yours anymore. Everyone’s lives will be better for it.
