To My Military-Kid Best Friend

To My Military-Kid Best Friend

I wouldn't trade my military best friend for anything in the world. Even if it means going months without seeing them, it's worth it.


Having a best friend who's part of a military family is one of the best and worst friendships you can ever have. It's the best because you cherish every single moment you spend with them, but it's the worst because when they get ready to leave, neither of you are truly ready to say goodbye.

My best friend currently lives in Germany. The time zones make it hard for us to find time to talk and have real conversations, but we're still close. She's been there when I need her and I'm there when she needs me.

We have some of the best memories, from sneaking into Annabelle because we weren't old enough to buy tickets, to running around in K-Mart and messing with EVERYTHING we could find.

I'll never forget our last day together before she had to leave. We drove around, got food, she got her nails done, we snuck into yet another movie, and then we ended our day in the Starbucks parking lot, crying because of how much we were going to miss each other.

She's my best friend and my long lost twin and she always will be. Meeting her was like meeting a missing piece of me. We went together like two puzzle pieces, even living together for three weeks over the Summer. We've been to Washington D.C. together and will continue to make memories that will last us a lifetime.

Her endless stories about where she lived previously always blew my mind, and I hope I was able to make her time in North Carolina feel a little more like home. I'm forever grateful for her, her dancing, and our ability to make a joke out of anything that we have around.

My favorite memory with her is when we went to Washington D.C. together. We spent every second of that trip almost crying with laughter and we used each other as pillows on the bus ride and models for cool pictures we wanted to take.

Chandler has changed my life in so many different ways. She helped me step out of my comfort zone and do things I never would've dreamed of. Without her, I don't know what my life would be like currently.

She supports me in everything that I do, and I do the same for her. I can't wait to be able to see my twin again. It's been six months without her and I miss her every single day. I know that when she comes back she'll have so many stories to tell me about her adventures in Europe, or maybe I'll even get to go visit her over the Summer.

I wouldn't trade my military best friend for anything in the world. Even if it means going months without seeing them, it's worth it. Reconnecting with them and still having that spark of true friendship is unlike any other feeling in the world.

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I Ghosted My Old Self For 5 Months In An Effort To Reevaluate My Life

My life fell apart faster than a drunk dude approaching a Jenga stack.


BREAKING (not fake) NEWS: It's true, you have to hit your lowest before hitting your highest.

I want to share my lowest with you, and I'm almost ashamed to say it had nothing to do with the loss of both of my parents. I like to think I handled that like a warrior.

Turns out I didn't, and the hurt I've been burying from that hit me all at once, the same moment my life fell apart faster than a drunk dude approaching a Jenga stack.

My life flipped upside down overnight back in August. I had my heart broken shattered, lost two very important friendships that I thought were with me until the end, lost my 9-5 job, my health took a hit stronger than a boulder, and I was absolutely lost. For the first time, ever, I let go of the reigns on my own life. I had no idea how to handle myself, how to make anyone around me happy, how to get out of bed or how to even begin the process of trying to process what the f*ck just happened. I was terrified.

Coming from the girl who never encountered a dilemma she couldn't fix instantaneously, on her own, with no emotional burden. I was checked out from making my life better. So I didn't try. I didn't even think about thinking about trying.

The only relatively understandable way I could think to deal with anything was to not deal with anything. And that's exactly what I did. And it was f*cking amazing.

I went into hiding for a week, then went on a week getaway with my family, regained that feeling of being loved unconditionally, and realized that's all I need. They are all I need. Friends? Nah. Family. Only. Always.

On that vacation, I got a call from the school district that they wanted me in for an interview the day I come home. It was for a position that entailed every single class, combined, that I took in my college career. It was a career that I had just gotten my degree for three months before.

I came home and saw my doctor and got a health plan in order. I was immediately thrown into the month-long hiring process for work. I made it a point to make sunset every single night, alone, to make sure I was mentally caught up and in-check at the same exact speed that my life was turning. I was not about to lose my control again. Not ever.

Since August, I have spent more time with family than ever. I've read over 10 new books, I've discovered so much new music, I went on some of my best, the worst and funniest first dates, I made true, loyal friends that cause me zero stress while completely drowning me in overwhelming amounts of love and support, I got back into yoga, and I started that job and damn near fell more in love with it than I ever was for the guy I lost over the summer.

But most importantly, I changed my mindset. I promised myself to not say a single sentence that has a negative tone to it. I promised myself to think three times before engaging in any type of personal conversation. I promised myself to wake up in a good mood every damn day because I'm alive and that is the only factor I should need to be happy.

Take it from a girl who knew her words were weapons and used them frequently before deciding to turn every aspect of her life into positivity — even in the midst of losing one of my closest family members. I have been told multiple times, by people so dear to me that I'm "glowing." You know what I said back? F*ck yes I am, and I deserve to.

I am so happy with myself and it has nothing to do with the things around me. It's so much deeper than that, and I'm beaming with pride. Of myself. For myself.

I want to leave you with these thoughts that those people who have hurt me, left me, and loved me through these last couple of months have taught me

Growth is sometimes a lonely process.
Some things go too deep to ever be forgotten.
You need to give yourself the permission to be happy right now.
You outgrow people you thought you couldn't live without, and you're not the one to blame for that. You're growing.
Sometimes it takes your break down to reach your breakthrough.

Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

My god, it's so f*cking good.

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From The Girl Lucky Enough To Have A Guy Best Friend

This one is for the guys…


That's right, the guys I am lucky enough to call my best friends, this one is for you. Firstly I'd like to say Thank you. Thank you for always being there for me without even being asked… You always have a way of just knowing when something is not right. Thank you for always being my shoulder to cry on, they say that guys are supposed to be big, rough, tough and mighty but honestly no... that's the biggest and untrue stereotype. You are nothing of the sorts and I count my blessings every day for that.

You guys have taught me so much, from how to go into complete beast mode while playing one on one to teaching me the basics of how to play video games, and you never seem to give up on me even though you know I am the absolute worst at it! I love the fact that we can just chill together and you're not afraid to let me be just one of the guys with you, we can just chill and everything is cool but you also know how to treat me like a proper lady, and one of my favorite parts is that you will never turn down a spur of the moment shopping trip! I have learned so much from you dude, you are the one I can go to for guy advice and you will tell me straight up how it is. You're not afraid to call me out on my sh** and tell me when I am out of line or just going crazy. You know how to make me laugh harder than anyone else can and I know I can always count on you to cheer me up when I am down.

You're not big brother but you know how to act like it sometimes… I feel bad for the next guy who tries to play me because I know he's going to have to deal with you and your not afraid to put him in his place if he steps out of line. I'm jealous of the girl you end up with, she is going to be one lucky girl but she will be blessed with a true gentleman. She better treat you right though because just like you I'm not afraid to put her in her place. I have high standards and expectations for the girl you end up with because she is going to end up being with an amazing, kind-hearted and funny guy.

You may or may not have been here since day one but that's ok because friendship isn't about whos been there the longest it about whos never left your side, and whose loyalty you have never had to question and I can say proudly and happily say that I have never had to question yours, you have always been there for me and I honestly can't thank you enough for that. You have been one of the only constant and consistent people that I know I can always rely on.

Thanks, dude… for everything...

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