To The Sister Who Doesn't Like To Be Sappy, I Love You.

To The Sister Who Doesn't Like To Be Sappy, I Love You.

This one's for you.

To my crazy, amazing sister,

Siblings are bound to fight. I think that if you shared a womb with someone, you are naturally inclined to argue with them. It's just in our blood. But we have definitely had some pretty vicious fights...

Remember the time that I bought that brand new magazine with my own money when I was nine, and you decided that you wanted to take it from my room and cut it all up for your project? Then I started to hit you because I was so upset and to "defend" yourself you took the scissors you were using and you stabbed me in the back (don't worry, it was only a poke that left a minor scrape, but the memory has scarred me ever since.)

Remember when I got really mad at you when I was ten, went into your room and spread chocolate all over your bed and mirror? I don't blame you for beating me up about that one.

Remember all of those times you called me a brat? Or the time you told me I looked like a "raw chicken" when I got out of the shower?

I forgive you for these meaningless fights and I'm sorry for the times that I was actually a brat, and especially that time when I wasted chocolate to get back at you for something that probably wasn't important.

Remember the time when you first went to college, and I didn't realize how different everything at home would be without you? I didn't want to let you know how upset I was but,I cried every day for about a month when you first left.

Remember the first time I visited you at school? It was my first taste of college and I didn't want to leave. I especially didn't want to leave you.

Now, we are both in college and nothing excites me more than the thought of seeing you. Now, we fight over who wants to drive when we are home or the fact that I want to FaceTime you during the day but you would rather sleep than talk to me sometimes. Now, we are more like best friends than sisters and this is something I will value forever.

Everyone always says the same things about us. They say we look exactly alike and have the same laugh and sense of humor. They say we are so close and so lucky to have each other. I love to hear these things because you are exactly the person I strive to be because even though you are only a year older than me, I still look up to you.

I know I don't tell you this enough, and even though we hate to be sappy with each other, I love you.

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Because you are my ultimate Valentine.

To my beautiful best friend,

Warning: This letter is about to get extremely cheesy. I am talking four cheese lasagna cheesy. But no one deserves a love letter like this more than you do.

This Valentine’s Day, I want to express my love for you. On this wondrous occasion with which most people express their love to their significant other, I want to tell you, my best friend, how much I cherish our friendship.

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You are the ultimate love of my life. Boys have come and gone but you remain a constant; for that I am grateful. You have been there for me when my family could not be; for that I am grateful. You have been my backbone, my rock, and all those other clichés people use to describe the people they care about, and yet you have been so much more than that as well; for that I am grateful.

All my love this Valentine’s Day goes out to you, my friend, because you do not receive it enough. You have picked me up out of the dirt, brushed me off, and kissed my wounds more times than I can count, and I will never be able to thank you enough for that, but I am sure am going to try.

Thank you for the midnight cries. Thank you for the midnight laughs. Thank you for ordering way too much food with me and still just eating it all. Thank you for the advice, both solicited and unsolicited. Thank you for telling me what I need to hear, even when it isn’t what I want to hear. Thank you for the silly pictures. Thank you for the stupid inside jokes. Thank you for making bad decisions with me. Thank you for laughing with me and laughing at me. Thank you for the endless memories.

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More than anything, I want you to know that I love you. I love you. You are the family I get to choose, the one I go to when I have nowhere else to turn. You are the one I know I can always run to, whether we saw each other yesterday or haven’t seen each other in a year. You have played a part in molding who I am as a person, and I am so grateful for having such an amazing person affecting my life in such a positive way.

With all the love in my heart,

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Blood Doesn't Determine Family

Blended families are just as much of a family as a traditional one.


If you look above, you can see that have a very large family on my mother's side. Between my grandparents, aunts and uncle, cousins and my own immediate family, we're at thirty-three members and counting. All branches of our family tree have busy lives, so we don't get to see each other as much as often as we would hope to. Christmas is the one time a year where we all finally get together for the evening. If you sat in on our holiday party, you may think that we have a couple screws loose, but there is no doubt that you would be able to feel the love radiating from room to room.

If you look at the picture I chose for my header, you can see all of the cousins gathered for our yearly picture. Dysfunctional, of course, but you can tell that love is there. Would it surprise you that out of our entire huge family, less than half of us are blood-related?

I come from a blended family, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Blood does not determine family to us. Love does.

Divorce can be a messy thing, especially when children are involved. Both my aunt and uncle had remarried into relationships that already had children. For the most part, none of us can really ever remember a time when we weren't considered family. We don't ever look at each other as not being related. We never will. Family to us is the love and support that is shared unconditionally between us.

As I said, you would never be able to tell we weren't blood-related unless I told you. Not only do we all look similar to one another (which again is odd, because if the marriages had never taken place, we would just have a ton of doppelgangers running around), but the love and passion that we radiate is unmistakable that we have a bond that will never be broken, let alone determined by biology.

Blended families tend to get a bad rap sometimes from some of the horror stories that can come from second marriages. Not only that, but some people still are stuck in the idea that the only socially acceptable type of family is one where the lineage is clear and concise. Although I can see where these people come from, I don't believe that because there is a lack of shared genetics between all of us, our love is any less strong.

Family is those who will answer a call or text late at night because you need someone to talk to. They're the ones that you end up staying at their house and talking for hours when you meant to make a quick trip in. They are there for you no matter the situation and always believe in you one hundred percent.

Traditional families have a lot of love too, undoubtedly. But please, do not tell me that my family is any less of a family of a family because of its makeup. We have just as much love between us as families with the same bloodline. Blood does not determine the amount of love and affection between all of us. It never will. We will love each other as much as a traditional family. We never look at each other as a mixed family, so please stop treating us as such.

I've said it so many times, but I'll remind you once more. Blood does not determine family, love does-- and I love my family more than life itself.

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