To The Sister Who Doesn't Like To Be Sappy, I Love You.

To The Sister Who Doesn't Like To Be Sappy, I Love You.

This one's for you.

To my crazy, amazing sister,

Siblings are bound to fight. I think that if you shared a womb with someone, you are naturally inclined to argue with them. It's just in our blood. But we have definitely had some pretty vicious fights...

Remember the time that I bought that brand new magazine with my own money when I was nine, and you decided that you wanted to take it from my room and cut it all up for your project? Then I started to hit you because I was so upset and to "defend" yourself you took the scissors you were using and you stabbed me in the back (don't worry, it was only a poke that left a minor scrape, but the memory has scarred me ever since.)

Remember when I got really mad at you when I was ten, went into your room and spread chocolate all over your bed and mirror? I don't blame you for beating me up about that one.

Remember all of those times you called me a brat? Or the time you told me I looked like a "raw chicken" when I got out of the shower?

I forgive you for these meaningless fights and I'm sorry for the times that I was actually a brat, and especially that time when I wasted chocolate to get back at you for something that probably wasn't important.

Remember the time when you first went to college, and I didn't realize how different everything at home would be without you? I didn't want to let you know how upset I was but,I cried every day for about a month when you first left.

Remember the first time I visited you at school? It was my first taste of college and I didn't want to leave. I especially didn't want to leave you.

Now, we are both in college and nothing excites me more than the thought of seeing you. Now, we fight over who wants to drive when we are home or the fact that I want to FaceTime you during the day but you would rather sleep than talk to me sometimes. Now, we are more like best friends than sisters and this is something I will value forever.

Everyone always says the same things about us. They say we look exactly alike and have the same laugh and sense of humor. They say we are so close and so lucky to have each other. I love to hear these things because you are exactly the person I strive to be because even though you are only a year older than me, I still look up to you.

I know I don't tell you this enough, and even though we hate to be sappy with each other, I love you.

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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You Don't Have To See Your Friends Every Day

We all have lives that we're trying to balance.


For as long as I can remember, whenever I would have no plans and go on Snapchat to see all my friends having fun without me, I would get FOMO. I'd get really sad and think that they didn't care about me because they didn't invite me. It would get me in such a bad mood that it would ruin any chance of going out with someone else who wanted to hang out.

I don't know if it was just my anxiety of people hating me or if it was a fear of missing out (FOMO). Even recently, it has gotten me down. However, over the past month or so, I finally realized something: you don't have to hang out every day to still consider each other friends.

Everyone has a life that they're trying to balance, especially after high school. People work (maybe even more than one job) and go to school. Some have to take care of family members or do things for their family. Some people are focusing on themselves. Some have relationships to maintain. Whatever it is, we all have lives that we're trying to balance.

We all want to have fun, but school, work, and our families are the priorities.

Even if they're out hanging with other people, it doesn't mean that they don't want to hang out with you. Free time is served on a "first come, first serve" basis. It's hard to balance hanging out with multiple people.

I also learned that it doesn't matter the number of friends you have. What truly matters is the quality. Ask yourself, "Who's there for me when I really need someone?" The people who are there for you when you really need someone to talk to are your TRUE friends.

It's not easy to be there for someone and make them feel better. If they offer to listen or give advice, they care!

I know that it may feel like you have no friends sometimes, but that's not true. Life after high school is hard at times. You're an adult. You have to do adult things and take care of yourself first.

You have to realize that everyone has a busy schedule and not all your friends' schedules will align with yours, but that's okay! You don't need to hang out with friends every day to consider them your friends. What truly matters is if they are there for you when you need them.

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