Friends Made In College

To The Friends I’ve Made In College, You’ve Done So Much More For Me Than You Could Ever Know

They say the friends you make in college will be your friends for life, but I never thought it could be true.


Walking onto campus the first day of my freshman year of college — I was terrified. I knew absolutely no one, I was in a brand new city, and I was an hour away from my family.

I'm sure everyone can relate to the intimidating first-day-of-college experience. It's pretty common, and it makes sense that people would be nervous in a situation like this. But even the stories I've heard that start like mine, scared and alone, usually don't take long to get to the point where those people make friends and join clubs a couple weeks into the year and start to have the time of their lives.

For me, it didn't happen quite as quickly. In fact, it took about three months into my first semester of college before I finally formed any friendships. I think this is partly because I was afraid any new friendships would somehow replace my best friend’s from home, as if I had a limited number of spots in my life.

But finally, I realized that making new friends doesn’t mean I don’t love my hometown friends any less, just that they can’t always be there with me and that it’s okay to let new people in.

And I'm still extremely close to the first friend I made in college, which tells me that maybe the torturous, friendless months were worth it.

To the amazing people that I've met in college, the ones I've formed irreplaceable bonds with thank you for being you, and more importantly, embracing me for who I am. I never imagined I would feel so comfortable around a group of people I've known for less than a year. Never in my wildest dreams did I think that I'd add more human beings into the "best friend" category of my personal relationships.

But then again, I never could have pictured meeting people like you guys. People that I have so much in common with it's actually kind of scary. People who not only understand my sense of humor but share it and add to it. People who push me and celebrate my achievements.

You turned my college experience upside down, in the best way possible. You made it easier to breathe in a city I knew nothing about. My homesickness fades so far into the background when I'm around you guys that sometimes I forget it's there at all.

Thank you for sharing my love of insane TLC reality shows, of the “19 Kids and Counting" and “Sister Wives" variety. Thank you for sharing my deep appreciation for artists on both ends of the musical spectrum, from Amy Winehouse to One Direction. Thank you for not giving me weird looks when every other sentence out of my mouth is a vine quote. Thank you for somehow sharing both my love of Broadway musicals and the “Twilight" saga movies.

For a while, during my first month or so away at school, I genuinely thought I'd never make a single friend. And when I finally did, I never thought those friendships would be meaningful or last longer than a semester. But the fact that I have such great connections with you all, the fact that some of my favorite memories took place alongside you, shows me that the universe had plans for me all along.

To my emotionally unstable, emo-music loving, lush-obsessed, musically gifted Cleveland friends who are capable of making me laugh harder than I ever have: words can't describe how thankful I am for you. You made what should have been one of the scariest years of my life, my first year of college, easier than I ever could have done on my own. And more importantly, because of you, I have more people in my life that I know I'll be friends with for years to come.

While we may be apart for the holidays, we'll be back in the same zip code soon enough, and I can't wait for all of the amazing memories we're bound to make this year.

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So, You Want To Be A Nurse?

You're going to find that nursing isn't really about the medicine or the assessments. Being a nurse is so much more than anything that you can learn in school. Textbooks can't teach you compassion and no amount of lecture time will teach you what it truly means to be a nurse.


To the college freshman who just decided on nursing,

I know why you want to be a nurse.

Nurses are important. Nursing seems fun and exciting, and you don't think you'll ever be bored. The media glorifies navy blue scrubs and stethoscopes draped around your neck, and you can't go anywhere without hearing about the guaranteed job placement. You passed AP biology and can name every single bone in the human body. Blood, urine, feces, salvia -- you can handle all of it with a straight face. So, you think that's what being a nurse is all about, right? Wrong.

You can search but you won't find the true meaning of becoming a nurse until you are in the depths of nursing school and the only thing getting you through is knowing that in a few months, you'll be able to sign the letters "BSN" after your name...

You can know every nursing intervention, but you won't find the true meaning of nursing until you sit beside an elderly patient and know that nothing in this world can save her, and all there's left for you to do is hold her hand and keep her comfortable until she dies.

You'll hear that one of our biggest jobs is being an advocate for our patients, but you won't understand until one day, in the middle of your routine physical assessment, you find the hidden, multi-colored bruises on the 3-year-old that won't even look you in the eyes. Your heart will drop to your feet and you'll swear that you will not sleep until you know that he is safe.

You'll learn that we love people when they're vulnerable, but you won't learn that until you have to give a bed bath to the middle-aged man who just had a stroke and can't bathe himself. You'll try to hide how awkward you feel because you're young enough to be his child, but as you try to make him feel as comfortable as possible, you'll learn more about dignity at that moment than some people learn in an entire lifetime.

Every class will teach you about empathy, but you won't truly feel empathy until you have to care for your first prisoner in the hospital. The guards surrounding his room will scare the life out of you, and you'll spend your day knowing that he could've raped, murdered, or hurt people. But, you'll walk into that room, put your fears aside, and remind yourself that he is a human being still, and it's your job to care, regardless of what he did.

Each nurse you meet will beam with pride when they tell you that we've won "Most Trusted Profession" for seventeen years in a row, but you won't feel that trustworthy. In fact, you're going to feel like you know nothing sometimes. But when you have to hold the sobbing, single mother who just received a positive breast cancer diagnosis, you'll feel it. Amid her sobs of wondering what she will do with her kids and how she's ever going to pay for treatment, she will look at you like you have all of the answers that she needs, and you'll learn why we've won that award so many times.

You'll read on Facebook about the nurses who forget to eat and pee during their 12-hour shifts and swear that you won't forget about those things. But one day you'll leave the hospital after an entire shift of trying to get your dying patient to eat anything and you'll realize that you haven't had food since 6:30 A.M. and you, too, will be one of those nurses who put everything else above themselves.

Too often we think of nursing as the medicine and the procedures and the IV pumps. We think of the shots and the bedpans and the baths. We think all the lab values and the blood levels that we have to memorize. We think it's all about the organs and the diseases. We think of the hospitals and the weekends and the holidays that we have to miss.

But, you're going to find that nursing isn't really about the medicine or the assessments. Being a nurse is so much more than anything that you can learn in school. Textbooks can't teach you compassion, and no amount of lecture time will teach you what it truly means to be a nurse.

So, you think you want to be a nurse?

Go for it. Study. Cry. Learn everything. Stay up late. Miss out on things. Give it absolutely everything that you have.

Because I promise you that the decision to dedicate your life to saving others is worth every sleepless night, failed test, or bad day that you're going to encounter during these next four years. Just keep holding on.


The nursing student with just one year left.

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Why Fordham Should Have a Safe Space Policy

On a campus committed to it's student's safety, why is emotional safety left out?


Last year college Republicans were asked to leave Rodrigue's coffee house for provoking members by wearing pro-Trump attire within the shop. The reason they were asked to leave was because Rodrigue's upholds a "safe space" policy, which can be boiled down to the simple phrase: "No racism. No sexism. No homophobia." In the eyes of the members and patrons of Rod's, Trump embodied all of these things. Regardless of the politics of this specific incident, the phrase and policy seems redundant because this rhetoric can't possibly be allowed anywhere else on campus. Right?

As this incident made campus as well as national news Father McShane addressed the events in an e-mail to all students in which he made it clear he did not condone the approach of the College Republicans, as well as stated that Fordham has no official Safe Space policy and insinuated if it did this would silence voices on campus.

Let's examine what a safe space policy means and why it's important to so many members of the Fordham community. It simply means homophobic, sexist, and racist imagery and speech are not allowed. On a campus with racial minority, female, and queer students who chose to be members of the Fordham community as well as study here, live here, and pay obscene amounts of money to be a student, it does not make sense for these individuals to be subjected to abuses related to their identity. How can you focus in class when your professor misgenders you, a student makes a disparaging comment about your religion, or you fear for your physical safety due to the way you present yourself? Bigoted rhetoric is oppositional to academia.

Fordham is a private university, not a public one, and could easily legislate a basic safe space guideline on campus. I understand many of us that a safe space policy would protect do not experience outward aggression often, if at all, as the University does take steps to ensure our safety. So why no official policy? The answer is simple to me: money. Fordham receives hefty donations from conservative alumni whose own political ideology is contrary to the safe space policy. The choice to not outwardly support minority students is a decidedly economic and political one, despite Father McShane's plea for political peace on campus.

And what is wrong with silencing hateful voices? Tolerance is an incredibly important value, but should tolerance really extend to the intolerant? I found the logic behind not installing the policy as it would politically oppress individuals, incredibly interesting and telling. This means your politics are fatally bigoted and I would take a critical look at that. It's intrinsic to our perception of our school to remember that colleges are businesses and it is sometimes their prerogative to meet economic needs above the needs of their student body. However, this is hopeful. As patrons of this business, we can demand more of them and the most effective way to do this is economical. Invest money in places such as Rodrigue's to expand their voice, have your parents write letters to the school, tell at-risk individuals to not apply, and encourage alumni to earmark their money for minority student initiatives or withhold it unless the school legislates a safe space policy.

We as a student body should care for one another and above all respect the personhood of everyone on and off campus. Consider honoring the policy in your own lives and social circles, and demand Fordham to officially do the same.

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