Sometimes in life, we get left behind by people that we thought would be there for the long run. People have a way of moving on in life without others, whether that be family, friends, or a significant other.
When it comes to being forgotten by someone in your family, it can create a void where that relationship should be. It leaves you feeling confused and hurt in a way that other betrayals cannot. When you come from a family that is pretty close knit, it hits pretty hard when a member of your family doesn't seem to want you in their lives.
Being forgotten by someone you love hurts. It isn't something that you just get over because it messes with your head. It leaves you wondering what did I do to deserve to be treated this way? Did I say or do something to hurt you? Was I making your life difficult?
It begs the question, "Why don't you want me?"
The emptiness that comes with being the forgotten person builds over the years. It is made up of unanswered phone calls and text messages. Voicemails listened to but never returned. Visits canceled because something more important came up. It is feeling like an obligation to them, rather than someone they love.
It is being left out of important life moments and blessings, and wondering why they don't want to share their happiness with you. It is trying for years to be present in their lives but never receiving the same effort from them.
The feeling of growing away from someone who has always been in your life while you try so hard to hold on to them is so painful. It can harden even the softest of hearts.
After you spend years trying to fix whatever is broken in that relationship, you begin to distance yourself for your own protection. You start to put up walls around your heart to stop this person from causing you anymore pain. You begin to avoid the obligatory phone calls because you don't want to listen to the silence coming from the other end.
You continue to wonder why you were never good enough to be an important part of their life and if you ever will be. However no matter how much pain you are caused by this person that you love, you still hope, deep down, that one day they will realize what they have been doing to you. You pray that they will one day want you to be a part of their lives because of love and not just for show.
To everyone who has been forgotten by someone that you love, stay strong. Your worth and life do not depend on that one person's feelings toward you. I know how much pain it causes you, and I know that it isn't fair. Trust me on that, but also trust me when I say that with or without them, you will be fine. You will still grow up to have a wonderful life. You are no less important because of someone's lack of love for you.
