11 Phases Of What It Really Takes To Be A Best Friend

11 Phases Of What It Really Takes To Be A Best Friend

The stages that you go through with a friend are very similar to those you go to with a relationship. The only difference is that you know that this is forever.

A true friendship is the one that hurts because you make each other laugh so hard. It is the one where you are there for each other through every stage and awkward surprise moment that life brings your way. It is the one that is kind of blackmail because you have so much dirt on the other to last a lifetime.

The stages of friendship vary for each person. Some friendships advance slower/faster than others, and some, the special ones, skip a few stages. However, the stages that you go through with a friend are very similar to those you go to with a relationship. The only difference is that you know that this is forever.

1. The Polite and nice phase

This phase consists of compliments and exaggerations. There isn’t teasing, and you filter your language to make sure you don’t hurt the other.

2. The “am I being too clingy?” phase?

This phase usually involves debating whether or not the text you just sent was too much. I mean, you already sent 10. You debate if you are bothering them.

3. The text me back phase

You both have realized that you are both weird and attached, so you get clingy and whiny when you don’t receive a text back after 5 minutes.

4. The couple phase

This phase is not awkward for you, but it’s awkward for those around you because you act more like a couple than you and your significant other do. You are always together.

5. The blunt phase

This is the stage where you don’t hear what you want to hear, but it is 100% what you need to hear. Yet, you value what each other say.

6. The “I’ll keep a secret just not from my best friend” phase

This phase is when you promise not to tell anyone, but that does not include your best friend. They can’t get mad because they should’ve known

7. The fighting phase

You argue but can’t stay mad because you need to gossip and get things done.

8. The dual conversation creator phase

This is when you consult each other before sending a text to someone

9. The inside joke phase

This phase consists of talking pretty much in all inside jokes, so no one understands what you are saying and feels inferior to your relationship

10. The yeah, I’m already in your house phase

“I’m in your house. When are you coming home?”

11. The your family is my family phrase

This is when you raise your kids to call them aunt or uncle because you are family

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Dear Mom, Now That I'm Older

A letter to the woman who made me the woman I am today.

Dear Mom,

Now that I'm older, I definitely appreciate you a lot more than I did as a kid. I appreciate the little things, from the random text messages to constantly tagging me on Facebook in your "funny" photos and sending me pins of stuff I like on Pinterest. Now that I'm older, I can look back and realize that everything I am is all because of you. You've made me strong but realize it's okay to cry. You've shown me how a mother gives everything to her children to give them a better life than she had, even when she's left with nothing. And, most importantly you've taught me to never give up and without this, I would not be where I am today.

Mom, now that I'm older, I realize that you're the best friend I'm ever going to have. You cheer me on when I try new things and support me in deciding to be whatever person I want to be. Thank you for never telling me I can't do something and helping me figure out ways to be the best woman I can be. Your love for me is unconditional. They say true, unconditional love can only come from God, but mom, I think you're a pretty close second.

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Now that I'm older, I don't get to see you as much. But not seeing you as much just makes the times I do get to see you the absolute best, and I look forward to it every time. Now that I'm older, I'm not going to live at home. But, I promise to always come back because I know the door is always open. Your house is always going to be my home, and no other place is going to be the same.

Now that I'm older, I realize how much I miss you taking care of me. I miss you making me dinner, making sure I was doing well in school, and taking me to endless appointments. I miss you waking me up for school and then waking me up again because I didn't listen the first time.

But, Mom, now that I'm older, I can see all that you've done for me. I can look back and see how big of a brat I was but you still loved me (and let me live) anyways. I can understand why you did certain things and frankly, you're one bada** of a woman.

To have you as my mom and my best friend has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. So, Mom, now that I'm older, thank you, for everything.


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Visiting Your Friends At Different Colleges Is Worth The Drive

Learning about the lives my friends are living at other schools is extremely interesting.


When I went to college, many of my friends went to different schools. Some of us went to the same college, some went to other in-state schools and some even went out-of-state. If you are ever bored and are thinking about spending the weekend with your friend at their college, I recommend doing it!

As a student at the University of Florida, I already know the best places to eat, party and relax in Gainesville. During my time here, I have met so many new people and have experienced so many new things. But, sometimes I forget that my friends are living their own lives at different schools, as well.

When I went to visit one of my best friends at the University of Central Florida, it was neat to see how she matured as a person. She took me to all the cool bars, introduced me to all of her new friends and gave me a tour of campus. Getting to see how she has evolved so much was so fascinating.

Visiting my friends at Florida State University was a whole experience in itself. I had many friends go to this school. Each of them lives their own lives, some still hang out, and some are even roommates. The culture at each university is so much different than the culture at my school. It was fun to meet all of their new classmates and sorority sisters. Getting to know the people that spend every day with the friends that I used to spend every day with is something I love to do.

If you ever have a break from studying, get a little bored, or even just miss your friends, give them a call and ask to stay with them for the weekend! I promise you will learn so much more about them and how they are taking on their new phase of life.

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