11 Phases Of What It Really Takes To Be A Best Friend

11 Phases Of What It Really Takes To Be A Best Friend

The stages that you go through with a friend are very similar to those you go to with a relationship. The only difference is that you know that this is forever.

A true friendship is the one that hurts because you make each other laugh so hard. It is the one where you are there for each other through every stage and awkward surprise moment that life brings your way. It is the one that is kind of blackmail because you have so much dirt on the other to last a lifetime.

The stages of friendship vary for each person. Some friendships advance slower/faster than others, and some, the special ones, skip a few stages. However, the stages that you go through with a friend are very similar to those you go to with a relationship. The only difference is that you know that this is forever.

1. The Polite and nice phase

This phase consists of compliments and exaggerations. There isn’t teasing, and you filter your language to make sure you don’t hurt the other.

2. The “am I being too clingy?” phase?

This phase usually involves debating whether or not the text you just sent was too much. I mean, you already sent 10. You debate if you are bothering them.

3. The text me back phase

You both have realized that you are both weird and attached, so you get clingy and whiny when you don’t receive a text back after 5 minutes.

4. The couple phase

This phase is not awkward for you, but it’s awkward for those around you because you act more like a couple than you and your significant other do. You are always together.

5. The blunt phase

This is the stage where you don’t hear what you want to hear, but it is 100% what you need to hear. Yet, you value what each other say.

6. The “I’ll keep a secret just not from my best friend” phase

This phase is when you promise not to tell anyone, but that does not include your best friend. They can’t get mad because they should’ve known

7. The fighting phase

You argue but can’t stay mad because you need to gossip and get things done.

8. The dual conversation creator phase

This is when you consult each other before sending a text to someone

9. The inside joke phase

This phase consists of talking pretty much in all inside jokes, so no one understands what you are saying and feels inferior to your relationship

10. The yeah, I’m already in your house phase

“I’m in your house. When are you coming home?”

11. The your family is my family phrase

This is when you raise your kids to call them aunt or uncle because you are family

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An Open Letter To My Unexpected Best Friend

You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better.

“It’s so amazing when someone comes to your life and you expect nothing out of it but suddenly there right in front of you is everything you ever need.”


Dear Unexpected Best Friend,

You were the person I never thought I would speak to and now you are my very best friend. You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better. I can’t thank you enough for everything you have done to shape me into the person I am today. You’ve taught me what it means to be selfless, caring, patient, and more importantly adventurous.

You don’t realize how much better my life has become and all because you came out of nowhere. I didn’t see you coming. I just saw you on occasion, and now I can’t see my life without you in it. It’s funny how life works itself out like that. Our unexpected friendship filled a hole in my life that I didn’t know existed.

I don’t even remember what life was like before you came along; it most likely had a lot less laughter and spontaneity than it does today. I can call you about anything and you would drop whatever you're doing to help me in any situation. You know when I need encouragement. You know when I am at my best and when I am at my worst. You always know exactly what to say.

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I couldn’t have found a better friend than you if I tried. We balance each other out in the best way possible. You are most definitely the ying to my yang, and I don’t care how cliché that sounds. Because of you, I’ve learned to stop caring what people think and to do my own thing regardless of any backlash I might receive. You are my very favorite part of what makes me who I am to this day.

It’s as if I wished up a best friend, and poof—you appeared right in front of me. I am so beyond blessed to have you and I wouldn’t trade the world for all our memories. Thanks for coming out of nowhere.

Love you forever and a day.

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10 Things You Know To Be True If You Are The Mom Friend

"Packed us brain food for the lib!"


Everyone has one, everyone loves their one, and sometimes you might just be the one, the mom friend that is. If you hear yourself sounding like your Mom (which for me, I am not mad about at all) maybe five times each day, chances are you are the Mom friend. If you are the one, here are ten things we all know to be true, even if we wouldn't like to admit it sometimes.

1. You know everyone's schedule

"Hey we have class.. like now"

2. Color coded, everything

From schedules, to do lists, and to notes...everything has its own special color.

3. You know when a stressful test is coming up for your friends

And you will be there for emotional support every step of the way.

4. Hourly to-do lists

You know your day, your roommates day, and all of your friends days. So, you know when they are missing.

5. You make sure all of your friends are well fed.. Even if that means giving them your food

Friend doesn't like something in the dining hall? Here, try this! *Hands them your plate of food*

6. You help your friends do the adult stuff, like going to the bank

"How do I use the ATM with my credit card? It won't work?" This is a job for the Mom friend.

7. Need neosporin? White out? Color coded agendas?

We have them, and some to spare.

8. Make sure all of your friends get to bed after a night out

Make sure they get home, take off their makeup, and tuck them in for the best sleep of their life.

9. You can make DIY ice packs and basically save a life

Friend falls? Rough night? Mom friend will have that ice pack ready in no time to avoid bruising

10. Snacks, always

"Don't worry guys, I have the brain snacks for the library."

To all my fellow Mom friends, here is an appreciation for you. All jokes aside, the Mom friend truly just cares so much for each and every one of her friends and just wants the best for all of them. Sometimes, we care a little too much for people for what we may receive in return, but that's all good, what are the Mom friends for? Plus, American Eagle really dedicated a whole brand of jeans, the Mom Jeans, to us, so who can complain

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