11 Phases Of What It Really Takes To Be A Best Friend

11 Phases Of What It Really Takes To Be A Best Friend

The stages that you go through with a friend are very similar to those you go to with a relationship. The only difference is that you know that this is forever.

A true friendship is the one that hurts because you make each other laugh so hard. It is the one where you are there for each other through every stage and awkward surprise moment that life brings your way. It is the one that is kind of blackmail because you have so much dirt on the other to last a lifetime.

The stages of friendship vary for each person. Some friendships advance slower/faster than others, and some, the special ones, skip a few stages. However, the stages that you go through with a friend are very similar to those you go to with a relationship. The only difference is that you know that this is forever.

1. The Polite and nice phase

This phase consists of compliments and exaggerations. There isn’t teasing, and you filter your language to make sure you don’t hurt the other.

2. The “am I being too clingy?” phase?

This phase usually involves debating whether or not the text you just sent was too much. I mean, you already sent 10. You debate if you are bothering them.

3. The text me back phase

You both have realized that you are both weird and attached, so you get clingy and whiny when you don’t receive a text back after 5 minutes.

4. The couple phase

This phase is not awkward for you, but it’s awkward for those around you because you act more like a couple than you and your significant other do. You are always together.

5. The blunt phase

This is the stage where you don’t hear what you want to hear, but it is 100% what you need to hear. Yet, you value what each other say.

6. The “I’ll keep a secret just not from my best friend” phase

This phase is when you promise not to tell anyone, but that does not include your best friend. They can’t get mad because they should’ve known

7. The fighting phase

You argue but can’t stay mad because you need to gossip and get things done.

8. The dual conversation creator phase

This is when you consult each other before sending a text to someone

9. The inside joke phase

This phase consists of talking pretty much in all inside jokes, so no one understands what you are saying and feels inferior to your relationship

10. The yeah, I’m already in your house phase

“I’m in your house. When are you coming home?”

11. The your family is my family phrase

This is when you raise your kids to call them aunt or uncle because you are family

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Until I made this list, I didn't realize how absurdly close my roommate and I were. #sorrynotsorry

1. "Can you turn the light off?"

2. "We probably shouldn't go out for dinner again...right?"

*complains about not having money* *spends $8 on Chipotle three times a week*

3. "I always pick where we go"

This is a fight you have with your roommate almost every day when you're roommate is as indecisive as mine.

4. "Do you have my keys?"

5. "Can you pick me up?"

6. "Is it hot in here?"

7. "Does this outfit look stupid?"

The answer is usually yes. No offense.

8. "Can you throw this out for me?"

9. "Can we get ice cream?"

10. "I need coffee"

This text is usually sent when you know your roomie is out running errands... errands you know are near a Starbucks.

11. "Can you tell me what happened?"

12. "Are you asleep?"

There have been times where I couldn't tell if you were asleep or dead... and I had to say this out loud to check if you were alive.

13. "Check your dm's."

*cracks up in the middle of nowhere* *catches a weird stare from your roomie across the room*

14. "Can you plug this in for me?"

15. "Can you pick a movie?"

Another instance where "I always pick" happens.

16. "Look at this girl's Instagram."

*chucks phone across the room at roommate*

17. "Can you call me?"

18. "Can we meet up?"

Separation anxiety is a real thing, people.

19. "Can you help me find my phone?"

*Tries to leave the house to do something* *loses phone* every. time.

20. "What should we do tonight?"

*tries to get ready to do something fun* *ends up staying in for another girls night*

21. "Why isn't everyone as great as us?"

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A Letter To The People I Met Freshman Year

To my friends who are now family, thank you.

To my new family,

I would like to start by saying thank you for making this first year of college better than I could have ever imagined.

Since we just said our goodbyes a little over a week ago, it is time to reflect on these past nine months. Even though I cried for days saying goodbye to you all one by one, these months were filled with so much love and happiness, and for this, I am so grateful.

It is bittersweet because although high school was memorable, college is where we have started to gain the most knowledge, the best friends and the greatest memories of our lives. I believe that college is where it all happens and so far, I have proven myself right. These years will shape the rest of our lives, and that excites me so much.

I was incredibly grateful this year to have met people with such big smiles and even bigger hearts.

I have so much confidence that these relationships we have formed will last a lifetime. It is crazy when you think that we are still so young yet we have practically lived together for these past months, seeing each other every day and experiencing each other from all perspectives; It must be a sign that we are not yet sick of each other. You have made me laugh, cry, smile so hard it hurts, and everything in between.

To my future roommates, I cannot wait to experience the opportunity to live with my best friends.

To my crazy friends, you are truly insane, but I love you and will never stop caring for you.

To the person I least expected to meet, my love; I will never forget you or this incredible freshman year with you.

There is nothing better than finding people that understand your soul and love you for who you are. The people I have met this past year are the most genuine and amazing people I have ever encountered; I never saw this coming. But this eventful year filled with so many experiences was the best surprise I could have asked for.

This is the first step of our adulthood and together we will grow into amazing human beings; we will make mistakes, go through many trials and tribulations, but the most important thing is that we will be by each other's sides.

Not all of it will be hard though, we will make memories that will last a lifetime and even when we are telling them as we get older, we will still smile and be overcome with nostalgia as if they were yesterday. I promise to be there for you all through thick and thin and to always love you and be there for you. I never want these memories with you all to end.

I may be known as the girl who loves way too hard, but frankly, you are all worth it. Thank you, and I am so excited for these next three years and a lifetime with you all.

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