Online dating apps like Tinder and Hinge are sort of exhilarating at first. There's a sort of thrill finding out if someone is interested/attracted to you, especially because you don't have to deal with the possible humiliating rejection that could come with it. Plus, these types of apps open you up to meeting so many more people than you would've been able to before. Distance doesn't mean a thing when you get connected online.
After a while, though, the dating apps get old. Truth be told, I'm tired of dating apps and here's why:
- I'm tired of guys with a fetish
People have types or certain features on a person that makes them more attractive, but my ethnic background should not be a factor. I can't count off the number of guys who message me creepy and weird messages that pertain to my race. Some straight-up tell me they have a thing for Asian girls or they make a racially charged sexual comment towards me. If you couldn't tell, these are not the kind of guys I want to attract.
- I'm tired of messages that don't go anywhere
I admit I ghost people and get ghosted. In my defense, it's tiresome having the same conversation with different people. And constantly messaging isn't really my thing. I'd rather have an in-person conversation because you get to know a person so much faster and more in-depth. I enjoy getting to know a person and learning about them but maybe not like 20 at the same time.
- I'm tired of the silent game
I'm sure we all have a bunch of matches but we don't talk to them. Maybe you're both waiting for the other to make the first move which can lead to nothing. Other times you match just to match with them and don't plan on doing anything afterward. People like to do that for the gratification of knowing someone found you attractive. But truth be told I'm tired of having these matches and not doing anything about it. Sure I could take initiative and talk to them but it all goes back to having to talk with too many people.
