Okay, so this has been on my mind for a while, but I'm finally going to write an article about it. This week's pondering is about being left on read.
Despite this cheery exterior, I get aggravated. I mean, I am human, so it happens anyway. Anyway, this has been getting to me lately because out of nowhere, this guy followed me on Instagram and then unfollowed me just as quickly. Before you wonder, I did ask him why when I was fed up with worrying about it. Now, keep in mind I was almost always left on read with the exception of "thanks" and a heart emoji.
Anyway, I got sick of waiting and worrying, so I decided to send him a nice note, and much to my surprise, I actually got an answer. He claimed that he couldn't remember the reason he followed me in the first place and that he didn't get back to me because we don't know each other in real life. He feels that online friendships aren't real.
My real question here is that if we don't know each other, and it's online, why was I even followed in the first place? The most aggravating aspect of this is that I wasted all this time thinking about it when I know that it isn't reciprocated on his end.
So, I'm sitting here writing this, because I can't have this rattling through my brain anymore.
Anyway, my other point in writing this is that I pride myself on spreading positivity because it's the way I am. I'm naturally very enthusiastic about things I enjoy and I love actively showing it.
What bothers me about being left on read is the fact that I'm taking the time to write when I'm in the middle of things, but I always make time to check and reply, because I don't like to keep people waiting on my replies.
Now, I'm aware that certain messages don't require a reply, but for the ones that do, I'd love to hear the valid reason why a person can see your message but not reply to it. I also know that certain people see it and come back to it, but I'm here and you're there, so I don't know how your mind works when it comes to that stuff. I assume that you would write back, and I do have it on my mind, as ridiculous as that sounds.
In my experience, most times that I'm left on read is usually because people are busy, and if you feel concerned, there's nothing wrong with asking if you feel unsure. It's better to ask and know, then to just dodge it and not know. When it comes to this topic, I have a technique where I send a message and then I shut my phone off so I stop thinking about it. It helps so you can get back to things, otherwise you get stuck checking your phone over and over. Don't let your life revolve around your phone, people reply when they reply.
This was a partial experience/rant and I appreciate all of you sticking with me during my long winded writings.