It's Time To Unplug For Wedding Season

It's Time To Unplug For Wedding Season

Please turn off your phones and cameras

It's the beginning of summer, and you know what that means: tan lines, beaches, and yes, engagements. Our Facebook timelines and Instagram feeds are beginning to fill up with numerous pictures of the picturesque engagement your friends had along with the perfect ring, and statuses are beginning to change from "in a relationship" to "engaged," and will soon become "married." The more pictures I see on various forms of social media, the more I wonder: why are we so insistent upon posting one of the most intimate moments of our lives?

There seems to be a rise in "unplugged weddings." If you don't know what theses are, then congratulations, you probably are already "unplugged." Basically, Pinterest boards are filling up with chalkboards written in calligraphy saying "Welcome to our unplugged ceremony. We ask that you please refrain from taking pictures and turn off your cell phones and cameras." A lot of people seem to be up in arms about the fact that they can't snap 18,482 pictures of the wedding they are attending, and can't immediately tweet ,"They're officially married!" with the couple's kitschy hashtag.

Why is it so wrong for a wedding to be unplugged? Sure, being able to take photos from the newest iPhone with the best phone camera to date is nice. You think you'll be able to look back through your camera roll and reminisce on the beautiful bride or how the groom teared up when he saw her walk down the aisle; however, you won't. In actuality, you'll probably post a #throwbackthursday photo of you and the bride and groom a month after the wedding and that'll be the extent of it. Then, you'll realize that you missed most of the ceremony and the minute details of the couple's vows because you were too caught up in taking pictures for Instagram.

In all likelihood, the bride and groom hired a wedding photographer. The photographer should be the only person taking pictures during the ceremony. During the reception is a different story -- take all the low-quality iPhone pictures you want as the guests dance the night away. Let the photographer do his or her job and capture the intimate and magical moments between the bride and groom. Besides, they'll probably do a way better job at capturing the moments than you would.

All in all, there's really no need to raise pitchforks and get angry when a couple, whether it be bride and groom, bride and bride, or groom and groom, decide to have their wedding ceremony "unplugged." A lot of money was probably spent in order to make this day magical, and the couple would like their guests to be able to enjoy the ceremony to the fullest extent. I think unplugged weddings are beautiful and that all wedding ceremonies should be unplugged. The fact that we are so dependent on social media and our cell phones to capture the moments we should be fully living is sad, to be frank. So when you put on your shoes, fix your hair and sit down in the chair for the ceremony, remember to unplug. Turn off your phone and your camera- the only thing you should be pulling out of your pocket is a tissue to wipe away the happy tears.

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To The Boy Who Will Love Me Next

If you can't understand these few things, leave before things get too involved

To the boy that will love me next, I need you to know and understand things about me and my past. The things I have been though not only have shaped the person I’ve become, but also sometimes controls my life. In the past I’ve been used, abused, and taken for granted, and I want something real this time. The guys before you were just boys; they didn’t know how to treat me until it was too late. They didn’t understand how to love me, until I broke my own heart. Before you truly decide to love me I want you to understand these things.

When I tell you something, please listen.

I’m my own person, I want to be loved a certain way. If I ask you to come over and watch movies with me please do it, if I ask for you to leave me alone for a few hours because it’s a girl’s night please do it. I don’t just say things to hear my own voice, I say things to you because it’s important to my life and the way I want to be loved. I’m not a needy person when it comes to being loved and cared for, but I do ask for you to do the small things that I am say.

Forgive my past.

My past is not a pretty brick road, it is a highway that has a bunch of potholes and cracks in it. I have a lot of baggage, and most of it you won’t understand. But don’t let my past decided whether you want to love me or not. My past has helped form who I am today, but it does not define who I am. My past experiences might try and make an appearance every once in a while, but I will not go back to that person I once was, I will not return to all that hurt I once went though. When I say those things, I’m telling the complete and honest truth. I relive my past every day, somethings haunt me and somethings are good reminds. But for you to love me, I need you to accept my past, present and future.

I’m just another bro to the other guys.

I have always hung out with boys, I don’t fit in with the girl groups. I have 10 close girlfriends, but the majority of my friends are guy, but don’t let this scare you. If I wanted to be with one of my guy friends I would already be with him, and if you haven’t noticed I don’t want them because I’m with you. I will not lose my friendships with all my guy friends to be able to stay with you. I will not cut off ties because you don’t like my guy friends. I have lost too many buddies because of my ex-boyfriends and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. If you don’t like how many guy friends I have you can leave now. Don’t bother trying to date me if you can accept the fact I’m just another bro.

I might be a badass, but I actually have a big heart.

To a lot of people I come off to be a very crazy and wild girl. I will agree I can be crazy and wild, but I’m more than that. I’m independent, caring, responsible, understanding, forgiving, and so such more type of woman. Many people think that I’m a badass because I don’t take any negatively from anyone. Just like we learned when we were younger, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Most people can’t do that in today’s world, so I stick up for myself and my friends. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, or their option on how I live my life. The only thing I care about is being able to make myself happy. Even though I’m an independent woman, understand that I do have a big heart. Honesty when I truly care for someone I will do just about anything they ask, but don’t take advantage of this. Once you take advantage of this part of me, all respect will be lost for you.

I’m hard to love.

Sometimes I want to be cuddle and get attention, and sometimes I don’t want you to talk to me for a couple hours. Sometimes I want you to take me out for a nice meal, but sometimes I want a home cooked meal. Every day is different for me, sometimes I change my mind every hour. My mood swings are terrible on certain days, and on those days you should probably just ignore me. I’m not easy to love, so you’ll either be willing to find a way to love me, or you’ll walk out like so many others have.

I’m scared.

I’m scared to love someone again. I’ve been hurt, heartbroken, and beat to the ground in my past relationships. I want to believe you are different, I want to hope things will truly work out, but every relationship has always ended up the same way. I’m scared to trust someone, put my whole heart into them, just to be left and heartbroken again. I sick and tired of putting my whole body and soul into someone for them to just leave when it is convenient for them. If you want to love me, understand it won’t be easy for me to love you back.

When “I’m done.”

When I say “I’m done” I honestly don’t mean that I’m done. When I say that it means I need and want you to fight for me, show me why you want to be with me. I need you to prove that I’m worth it and there’s no one else but me. If I was truly done, I would just walk away, and not come back. So if I ever tell you, “I’m done,” tell me all the reasons why I’m truly not done.

For the boy who will love me next, the work is cut out for you, you just have to be willing to do it. I’m not like other girls, I am my own person, and I will need to be treated as such. For the boy that will love me next, don’t bother with me unless you really want to be with me. I don’t have time to waste on you if you aren’t going to try and make something out of us. To the boy who will love me next, the last thing I would like to say is good luck, I have faith in you.

Cover Image Credit: Danielle Balint

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