Situationships are defined as "any problematic situation characterized by one or more unresolved interpersonal conflicts, usually confused with dating." One of the most emotionally confusing concepts. A situationship lies between being single and taken, with unnecessary stress and drama constantly occurring over the fact if you don't know if you should have a title or not.
A situationship starts off as the "talking" stage, when you are still trying to figure out if you actually like the person and want to continue talking to them. One person always gets hurt more than the other when the feelings are stronger. Other times, the feelings are mutual for one another, but the relationship has no "official" label. Without the title, it leads to miscommunication and confusion. Amongst it all, real emotions are involved which means real feelings get hurt. The fact that a title wasn't given doesn't make it hurt any less. It is a friendship with more intimate feelings, but not at the relationship stage quite yet. It is a relationship that has yet to come, but leaves both people sitting in utter confusion. A situationship is a mix of people that are not being fair. One needs to pick only a friendship or a relationship with a title on it, because if not, all this mess can lead to being a waste of time and unnecessary drama.
You're constantly confused about what to think. Are they supposed to be on your mind all the time like a relationship? Will there ever be a relationship? Are you wasting your time thinking about the whole situation, that you are missing out on other people? Is it worth the constant fighting over if there should be a title on you two or not?
You think about becoming more than whatever it is that you are, but are too afraid to say anything and rationalize to yourself that having something is better than nothing. That is your mantra. Whenever you begin to question anything you think to yourself “at least I get something.”
Everything happens for a reason and you meet people at certain times throughout your life for a reason. Whether they are meant to stay in your life or not, there are put in your life during a certain time for a reason. They may be the one for you in the time, or they may be in your life as a lesson.
The truth about situationships is that they aren’t for everyone and you can’t enter into one with a mentality that it will eventually involve into something more. You need to just take it for what it is, no hidden stuff. Don’t change your plans for someone who doesn't make time to have you in their life. Choose yourself first every time. It is okay to be selfish; do what you want to do without considering anyone else’s influence or input.
