12 Ways You Know It's Time To Say Goodbye To A Relationship | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Swoon

12 Ways You Know It's Time To Say Goodbye To A Relationship

You can't move forward when a relationship is holding you back.

Rebekah Anderson Barrett
Jul 31, 2017
Furman University
64
12 Ways You Know It's Time To Say Goodbye To A Relationship
Author's photo

In both romantic and platonic relationships, there often comes a time in which the relationship ceases to hold a purpose. However, in many of these cases, one or both of the people involved in the relationship will fruitlessly continue to work on the relationship for various reasons. It may be because they share happy memories, they may have spent a great deal of time together, or maybe they have been through a great deal of trials together. There could be a variety of reasons, but because of the individual or individuals’ attachment to the relationship, he/she or they are unable to disengage. There are several signs that may be evident when it is time to end the relationship.


1. Your memories with that person make you happier than the time you now spend with him/her.

2. You spend more time stressing about pleasing this person than you do enjoying him/her.

3. This person makes you feel inadequate or as if any shortcomings in the relationship are caused by you.

4. He/she ignores you until you are needed or wanted for something and then he/she acts like you are the greatest thing that ever happened to him/her.

5. When you are alone with him/her everything seems good, but when other people are around it is like you do not even exist.

6. He/she will drop you in a heartbeat for plans with anyone else.

7. You do not feel good about the time you spend with him/her.

8. Your parents do not like him/her.

9. You feel like you can never tell him/her no without being punished.

10. He/she makes you feel bad all the time for being a bad friend or partner when you spend every second of every day trying to be the best one you can possibly be.

11. You love him/her but do not feel loved in return.

12. You feel better without him/her.

The hardest part of letting go of a relationship is realizing that the memories that you have with the person is not necessarily who they are anymore. It is the recognition that just because you have many good memories with them does not mean that they will happen again and it does not mean that the individual is good or healthy for you. You can never move forward with someone in your life holding you back.

Report this Content
Entertainment

15 Times "Parks and Recreation" Summed Up Your Library Experience

"I've only slept nine hours over the past four days, so I'm right on the verge of a nervous breakdown." - Leslie Knope

University of Iowa
2187
Parks and Recreation excitedly gathered around a laptop at a table in an office setting.

The library. Club lib. The place every college student goes when they want to try and be a productive member of society. Who better to explain your experience than Parks and Rec?

1. When you've finally found the energy to leave your dorm room and walk into the lib like

Keep Reading...Show less
parks and recreation
Entertainment

Taylor Swift's Eras Tour is What I Hope Heaven Feels Like

By: James McDonald

7485
Taylor Swift in orange dress playing a moss-covered piano on stage with bright lights.

A three-and-a-half-hour runtime. Nine Eras. Eleven outfit changes. Three surprise songs. Zero breaks. One unforgettable evening. In the past century, no other performer has put on an electric performance quite like Taylor Swift, surpassing her fans ‘wildest dreams’. It is the reason supporters keep coming back to her shows each year. Days later, I’m still in awe of the spectacle ‘Miss Americana’ puts on every few days in a new city. And, like one of Taylor’s exes, has me smiling as I reminisce about the memories of the night we spent together.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

A Few Thoughts Every College Freshman Has

The transition into adulthood is never easy

Dubuque, IA
27698
Mays Island
Courtney Jones

Today I started my third week of college at Minnesota State Moorhead. I have survived welcome week, finding my classes on the first day, and being an awkward loner in the dining hall. Even though I have yet to be here for a month, I have already experienced many thoughts and problems that only a new college student can relate to.

Keep Reading...Show less
freshman
Student Life

8 Easy Ways to Get Involved in College

It's easier than you think.

Kansas State University
19804
Students walking on a sunny college campus with trees and buildings.

"Make sure to get involved when you're in college!"

We've all heard some variation of this phrase, whether it came from parents, other family members, friends, RAs, or college-related articles. And, like many clichés, it's true for the most part. Getting involved during your college years can help you make friends, build your resume, and feel connected to your campus. However, these commitments can get stressful if you're dealing with personal issues, need to work, or aren't sure how to balance classes and everything else going on during the semester.

Keep Reading...Show less
college
Relationships

9 Reasons Why Friends Are Essential In College

College without friends is like peanut butter without jelly.

Widener University
11766
Bridgaline Liberati and friends
Bridgaline Liberati

In college, one of the essential things to have is friends. Yes, textbooks, a laptop, and other school supplies are important but friends are essential. Friends are that support system everybody needs. The more friends you have the better the support system you have. But you also have someone to share experiences with. And don’t settle for just one or two friends because 8 out of 10 times they are busy and you are studying all alone. Or they have other friend groups that do not include you. Don’t settle for just one or two friends; make as many friends as you can. After the first couple of weeks of college, most friend groups are set and you may be without friends.

Keep Reading...Show less
friends

Trending Topics

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments