To any bright and shiny single girl,

You find yourself to be extremely comfortable with just yourself and with amazing friends. You find yourself to be content with where you are in your life. But you also find yourself listening to Ed Sheeran and Christina Perri love songs. Then soon enough, you find yourself thinking about how you see love every day, but you never been in love. And after that, you find yourself worrying that you’ll always be a bridesmaid and never the bride, which is a part of your over thinking.

Within every hit movie or TV show, girl and boy fall in love and work their way to happily ever after. That’s what makes this media popular to this generation today, which is perfectly fine. When you see this kind of love and affection on television, you can’t help think about having it.

You’ve been in relationships or flings or whatever, but you’ve never been in love, at least that movie or fairytale kind of love. You know love is out there, and you’ve seen so many of your friends have it, which makes you wonder, “am I the reason I don’t have it? You start to feel like the world just doesn’t think you’re meant to be in love. After all that thinking, you come to realize how okay you are with just thinking about it than living it.

A piece of you just feels like you’re not ready, and no matter how hard you’ve tried to be in relationships, you find yourself not really wanting it. Sure you get sad being surrounded by so many people that are involved with someone else, and you know you want that someday, but why work so hard for something you’re not even sure you want when you’re already so happy right now? You’re now you’re happy now, so you refuse to let a boy or an idea of a relationship ruin it, at least not right now.

Even though being the third wheel sucks sometimes, it does have it’s perks. It reminds you that love is out there for you whenever you’re ready and it’s something that you cannot take for granted. You get to see how happy your friends are together and it makes you happy to see them so happy (except when you’re stuck in the middle of their PDA session, that’s a different story). You always know can come to this couple for future relationship advice whenever you need it since they have experience. And since you have experience of being a third wheel, you can give advice to your other friends that are in the same situation as you, and show them how they can make the best of it.

I’m almost nineteen years old and I’ve never been in love, but I’m completely okay. I’ve always felt so pressured to be in a real relationship, a pressure that I put on myself because of what I’ve seen. I’ve seen high school loves and whatever else the media has been portraying. As well as how easy the media made it look to fall in love, but little do they know, that’s not how the world always really works. I’m tired being sad about being single because what’s there to be sad about when everything else in your life is just fine? Why does everyone have to be so worried about falling in love? Sure, we think we need in right now because other people have it, but it’s not what we want. In college, you have so much freedom to be who you want to be, which you have to do on your own. So I’ve come to realize that I don’t need to force love and I’ll continue to listen to my favorite love songs throughout whatever life hands me, whether it is a relationship or not.

Love,

Another bright and shiny single girl.