To Those Feeling Lost and Confused

To Those Feeling Lost and Confused

Everybody feels this way and it's okay

Everybody says college is the part of everyone's life where you find yourself, find your lifelong friends, and make memories that will last you your whole life. But no one really tells you that it's going to be the most challenging and confusing part of your life.

Sure, I'm only a freshman and my knowledge about my future is already so slim, but these pressures to "make connections" and "try out for everything" are getting pretty difficult to understand. We try out for clubs we really want to join, but get rejected or just don't even qualify for it. How are we supposed to do what we want if we can't even get positions that will help us towards our future?

Every night my friends all meet together and discuss our days and we always get on the topic of what we want to do, if we're wasting our time, or if college is even right for us. Normally these conversations end with us in us in our feelings or we laugh it all off cause we find something more important to talk about. Talking about everything going on is a therapeutic way to get through things, even if you aren't receiving advice.

As said before, I'm a freshman, so I'm still in the process of getting used to everything college has to offer. But, I already have an idea of what I want to do with my life. Well, I have a lot of things I want to do with my life: be a makeup artist, have my own makeup company, train dogs, foster dogs, be a sports photographer, have a family, travel the world for my makeup company. Honestly, none of these dreams really need a college degree so every day I'm faced with the question: Why am I here? I believe I'm here for a reason, but it just hasn't been shown to me.

We all have our dreams and aspirations but getting there is the problem. College is the first time in many people's lives that they're away from their parents making these HUGE life decisions on their own. Yes, you can always call your mom or dad to listen to their insight, but ultimately, it's all up to you.

The point of this is to say that it's okay to feel lost. It's okay to feel confused. This is how life is supposed to be and honestly, if life lacked these feelings, what even is the point of challenging yourself? Life gets tough, but everyone seems to get through it, and you will too.

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11 Things 20-Year-Olds Who Look 12 Are Tired Of Hearing

No, I don't need a kids' menu, thank you very much.

I used to just laugh it off when someone thought I was 12 years old back when I was in high school, but now that I am three years deep into college getting ready to graduate, I don’t laugh anymore. If you are in the same situation as me looking like a child trying to get into a bar/club and the bouncer is questioning if your ID is fake, please read on — you may relate very much. Here are 11 things 20+ year-olds who look 12 are tired of hearing:

1. I didn’t know they let 12-year-olds work here.

Nope. They don’t.

2. What school do you go to?

Me: Florida State.

Person: University?!

3. *Tries to get a sample at Target* Is your parent nearby?

Let me FaceTime my mom really quick and ask her permission for this protein bar sample.

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4. *Server at a restaurant* Here you go, sweetie. What can I get you, darling? Hi, honey, how are you?

You are no more than three years older than me, there is no need for "sweetie."

5. It’s your birthday? Happy Birthday! How old now, fourteen/fifteen?

6. You look so much older when you wear makeup.

Is that supposed to be a compliment?

7. Wow, you're how old? You look like you are twelve.

Have you seen a twelve-year-old lately?

8. You probably just look young because you're short.

9. *Tries to flirt with a guy* You're a little too young for me I think.

I'm your age. Maybe even older.

10. Are you old enough to see this movie? Can I see your ID please?

11. You're going to be so thankful when you are in your 50's.

So I've been told. Hopefully, it's worth it.

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20 Ways To Destress This Semester

Do not let the stress get you down.


Feeling the stress of the school year already? Here are a few ways you can destress.

1. Breathe

2. Chew gum

3. Clean

4. Craft

5. Dance

6. Doodle

7. Exercise

8. Hug a tree

9. Listen to music

10. Nap

11. Netflix

12. Pets

13. Read

14. Say no

15. Smile

16. Socialize

17. Spend time outside

18. Stretch

19. Treat yourself

20. Write

Whatever you can do to momentarily take your mind off of everything else.

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