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"This is ourselves under pressure"

How long distance has nothing on our relationship

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"This is ourselves under pressure"
Erica Benham

This is a personal record of the current time in my life between my significant other and myself.

A month and a half ago I started a new job that required me to move an hour away from the place I had called home for five years. I had established myself in the area, and had moved in with my boyfriend (calling him Justin from here on out) and put the finishing touches on our new space together. I was loving it. But then I had this life-altering event and changes had to be made.

Luckily, I have one of the most supportive honeys in the whole world and he wouldn't dream of holding me back from achieving my goals and dreams. Justin still has a year and a half left in his undergrad degree and until then, we realized we're going to have to spend some time apart. No biggie, we thought. We'd done it before when I had a summer internship, and it was important for me to start my professional career now. It was just something that had to be done.

So I moved. He's in class. I'm beginning my dream job right out of college and we're doing this long distance thing.

My point is, individually both of us are under a lot of stress. He with his new classes and working part time and the general mental health issues that come with being a college student. Me with making a move to a new place, living on my own for the first time, starting a new career. It's all very stressful and on top of that, together, we're dealing with being long distance.

But it's good.

I was inspired to write this when I was listening to Queen's "Under Pressure" featuring David Bowie. When Bowie says at the end, "This is ourselves under pressure"...

Justin and I are both under lots of pressure and the cool thing is, a lot of relationships crack and break when just one person is under pressure. We are both dealing with things separately and together dealing with this big thing and I don't see us faltering. I don't think we're cracking. I see us building each other up and supporting each other in these stressful times. We're making the drives to see each other for the weekends, we're making the extra calls and texts to make sure our communication is always as open as it can be.

If "this is ourselves under pressure" then I'm really glad to be in a relationship with this man because man, we are rocking it.

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