Just because we don't drink as much as you, or even at all, doesn't mean we are prudes. Here are some things we want you to know:
1. You can still invite us out
Once you have established yourself as someone who doesn't drink, it's rare for you to get invited out. Guess what. There's not much to do on the weekends when you are in college, especially when all of your friends are out partying. You can still invite us to go out with you!
2. There are other things for us to do
I've never been to a party where the only activity going on is drinking. We can find something else to do, whether it be dancing, talking to friends, getting to know new people, playing games, etc.
3. We aren't naive
Sometimes people assume that because we don't drink or don't drink much, we don't know what happens at parties. Most of us know what goes on. We know there's people drinking, doing drugs, dancing, making out, doing dumb things. We know to protect ourselves, not be alone, not leave our drink unattended, not drink too much. We're not stupid. You do not have to teach us the party basics if you take us out with you. We know what we're doing.
4. We like to dress up too
We see you getting all dolled up, doing your hair and make up, picking out the perfect crop top and we can't help but be a little jealous. We've thought of outfits we would wear out...that is if we ever got to go out.
5. Secretly, we want you to spend a weekend in with us
We know that you guys love going out, and we get it. But every once in a while, we wish that you would spend weekend in with us playing board games, painting nails, doing makeovers, having movie marathons, just having a girl time. It gets lonely when you are the only one not going out.
6. We want to know that you're safe
Part of the reason we want to be with you while you're out is to know that you're safe. We aren't trying to babysit or embarrass you, but when you are at a party with 100 other drunk people, it might be beneficial to have someone around who is sober enough to get that creepy guy to stop grinding on you, or just to keep an eye on you and make sure you are safe in general.
7. We like to be included
Quite frankly, we feel like we are being left out when you don't invite us to go out with you. We see the Snapchats and the Instagram posts that we weren't a part of, and we feel like we are missing out. We hear you talk about the party last weekend or the kid you met at the club, and we can't relate because we weren't there.
We don't want to miss out on our fun times at college or with you guys. So next time you go out, don't forget about your "not-so-party friends." Just because we don't drink doesn't mean we can't have fun.
