It's not an easy thing to do.
Whether it's from family members, relationships, or friendships. Letting go of someone who meant so much to you is a big part of your life. You create memories and a bond that you expect to last until the end of time, but then it suddenly gets cut off.
And you wonder, what did you ever do wrong? Were you the cause for it? Was there something that could've been done to stop the fallout or maybe the world works in ways that it was already predetermined?
For instance, ending a friendship or ending a moment where you once were a couple is one of the most emotional times. You're not only ending a bond, but ending a future of more memories to come. In the end, people tell you that you will learn to move on or that it will slowly be a thing of the past.
It's slow. Slower than anything you've perhaps experienced. It hurts. Hurts more than you thought a bond could hurt before until it actually happens. Yet, despite what they tell you on moving on, things don't happen instantly. Things such as this take time.
One thing is for certain, it's okay to care. To care about what happened before and what you thought would happen after. To care about the future of friendships or the future as a couple. It's okay to care about something that ended, especially that lasted a long time, because to you the relationship mattered.
There are people out there, people I've met myself, who continue on as though what happened was a thing of the past and something you'll get over. Oh, but the situation is much harder than it seems, and it takes pieces of you. Those people who tell themselves not to worry about it or seem to get over what happened so quickly, probably didn't get over what they had to let go of as quickly as you think.
Perhaps the way they cared for what meant a lot to them took a few days or maybe a week, but if they truly loved or cared for that person and thus proceed to write on social media, "Glad that's over with" or "I'm glad that's a thing of the past", they were hurting.
Social media gave them an outlet to seem as though they were fine and they were doing well, but even days, weeks, or years from now the situation popped up into their mind. The person meant more to them than they expected and that's the scary part.
When you let someone have such a great impact on your life, you're letting them see a part of you which you've never showed much of to anyone else. This doesn't just happened with couples, but with friendships. You share your mind and heart with them, and in return they tend to do the same.
Closure takes a long time to heal emotional and mental wounds. The act doesn't happen right away. If you want to pretend to move on, showing the world that you've moved on from something that mattered so deeply to you, then do as you feel.
But you can't fool yourself into believing that you're truly over a situation when inside the memories still linger through the tiny day to day things that you do.
