11 Things That Happen When You're An Introvert With An Extrovert Roommate

11 Things That Happen When You're An Introvert With An Extrovert Roommate

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I love hiding away in my room cuddled under the covers without no one else to bother me. However, I do love discussing things. Class discussion is one of my favorite activities to do in class, especially when it's about a book. But there are some who just seem to love to talk, to go out, to go out to parties to meet new people and talk to those people in addition to all of their friends who came with them. That's when I hide under the covers. But when your roommate is one of these people, like my past three roommates have been, there is almost no escaping the threat of the extrovert.


1. They love to talk. A lot.

Not all extroverts are especially talkative, but when some of them start, get comfortable and get ready to listen.


2. They want to go out, again.

So far all three of my extroverted roommates have had, on average, one meal off campus every week. Or they have had the whim to go shopping, or to go to Starbucks. Or they want to go out after coming back from hanging out. Even when I had a car, I only left campus when I had to. I don't understand it.


3. Campus Events? Always.

Sometimes I feel like a bad friend when I don't go to my friend's recitals or plays. On the other hand, my current roommate has been to one my friend's plays twice. Sometimes I just have to consider my roommate as someone who shows up for me.



4. What time are you getting back?

At like 12:00 AM or 1:00 AM, either is good. Why? Because it's the weekend. During the weekend, I like to go to bed at 9:30 PM. Why? Because it's the weekend.




5. Energy Source Danger.

After late parties, my current roommate can't sleep because she's so energized from all the people she has seen. I am cranky, and tired, and am already snoozing.


6. Constant phone activity.

Buzz. Nope, not my phone. It's her phone. Buzz. It's either her mom, her boyfriend, her dad, her brother, her friend from back home, her friend from Florida, or her cousin. If not all of them at once. Buzz.


7. She's talking to me now.

My earbuds are in and I am writing this article, but she explaining everything to me or talking about something that's happened or that she saw on social media. I half-listen, nod my head, and say "yes" when she asks me if I am paying attention.


8. Snapchat Attack!

I get every snapchat she takes. Ever. Or her story is a short film of all the crazy things she can do in a short period of time.



9. They are willing to say anything.

Maybe the others have seemed like complaints, but extroverts can be really relaxing to introverts when they just say whatever they need to say. Introverts can overthink, so having an open roommate can really help keep things straight.


10. "You've Told Me That, Twice."

When it's been a good day, she'll tell you something she's told you already. While it can get annoying, it's an effective way to tell that she's doing okay. And an effective reminder sometimes.


11. Summer time communication is probably a must.

Most of my friends in high school were introverts as well. So I never got into the habit of talking to my friends over the summer. But if to don't talk to your extrovert, you might find them a bit salty when you go back to school.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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House Hunting At Its Finest

It's incredibly stressful and takes way too long!

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House hunting is hard. I thought at first it would be fun, exciting, and interesting. But now, I'm tired and bored and just want to give up.

I've been looking for a house for a month now and I knew it going in to it, it would take a while. I knew that I wouldn't just walk into the first house and be like, "this is it, this is the one".

But, when you look at 6-10 houses every time you search a day, it gets stressful and tiring.

When I started looking at houses it was because I was planning on getting a house with some friends to rent out for the next 3 years while at UCF. All because I didn't get a spot-on campus with the lottery, I got waitlisted. So, I need to look for housing to secure a place to live next fall.

Now, my dad wants to turn it into a small business. Buy a house, rent out the rooms for a reasonable price, cheaper than some apartments, and make a profit.

It sounds like a good plan.

But then you have to factor in: location and how far it is from campus, the price range in which you could make a profit, the number of bedrooms and bathrooms, the price per square inch, the property taxes, if the house needs work or not, upgrades, improvement, parking availability, etc. The list just goes on and on.

It's hard to find the "perfect" house.

I want to be able to make it "home" for the next 3 years. I want to make it somewhere where I can hang out, have friends over, and love to live in.

Every time I walk into a new house, I automatically think, "what would I do to this room? Or that?". I think of furniture and décor. I think about how I would design it and make it ours.

I even made a Pinterest board, one for home décor and one for bedrooms.

I feel like I'm going overboard but I can't help it.

I get excited when it comes to the designing aspect, but my parents have to be so nit-picky. They came up over the weekend to search for houses with me and every time we walk into a house I hear: "the carpet is stained, needs to be removed", "the kitchen is outdated, needs to be upgraded", "the bathroom needs work", "the wall has a hole", "not enough bathrooms" and so much more.

It's not like I don't chime in with comments either.

I do put in a fair share of my personal opinions about the quality of the houses too.

But, at this point I wish we could just settle on something. Again, I know this takes time but I just get anxious.

So, we are going into the 5thweek and still haven't agreed on a house. My mom has her picks, my dad has his, and I have mine. And none of them overlap. Frankly, I don't get a "say" in what my parents chose since they will be purchasing the house. But, I get to live in it, my friends are the ones who will be paying them rent. So, I feel like my opinion matters. Whenever I ask questions or give input, they talk over me.

As if, I wasn't even there!

Yet, that is how the ball rolled. Wow, I'm borderline whining over here. It's not like I'm not grateful but, I wish I was valued as an adult helping in this situation.

Well thank you for coming to my "TED" talk! And reading about yet another annoying and trivial struggle of mine. I'll write again soon.

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