For introverts, small talk is painful. However, for extroverts, existing in silence when another person is present seems to be even worse. So sometimes people talk to us and sometimes we get stuck. We don't know how to engage. Unfortunately, there's a string of crappy things we all say when we really just don't know what to say. Here's a list of 10.
1. Talk about the weather
When we don't know what to say we, more times than not, end up saying something like, "Nice day out today."
2. Hmm...
When we want to put an end to a conversation, there's no quicker way than a "hmm." It's usually met with a "well, just let me know!"
3. Umm.../Awkward laughter
We've all been here.
4. Interesting
This isn't me asking you to please tell me more. This is me asking you to please stop talking.
5. So... Yeah
We do this when we don't know how to end our story. It probably wasn't as interesting as we thought it was going to be, and we just kind of end it, so... yeah.
6. Aaaanyway
When we don't know how to end the conversation, this is a not-so-subtle "Moving on!"
7. I'm tired/hungry
What we're actually saying is, "I'm bored here."
8. True
I guess this just feels better than saying, "Yup."
9. That's cool
When we say this, it doesn't mean we think that what we just heard was actually cool. It's just nicer than what we really want to say, which is probably that we don't care that much.
10. Awesome
We say this when we want the other person to think that we are more impressed than we are.
I use all of these on the daily because I don't like small talk. I actually kind of hate the metric. It's irrelevant and feels so unauthentic. Still, it's a big part of American culture, so I try to oblige, but these words fall out of my mouth before I can think of anything better to say. Sorry if my expression says "approachable," people who like small talk.































